Is ok for a teacher to date a graduated student?

Because he's a teacher? Not wrong at all. If there was a huge age gap I'd of course naturally be a little cautious, but that's just my personal bias... though typically I don't make a big deal out of age gaps, because I typically date people 2 years younger or older then me.

 

I would think it's a little concerning, since he could use his position of power against his student, but as long as he doesn't do that then no harm no fowl! Also, you said that being gay is illegal in your country but you also said you're from north america....Where exactly do you live?

 

It says Northern Americas. Homosexuality is illegal in Guyana and a bunch of islands by Cuba.

 

i think it's more of "other people will think they're doing something wrong" rather than "they're actually doing something wrong", because it's undeniably usual that the first impression of those who see them is that it's inappropriate.. but the others are right, as long as nobody's taking advantage over the other and it's real love, then it's fine i actually have a professor who married a former student, but the gap is shorter, like 7 years or so, and they're a straight couple and the student already graduated before they dated

the legality of having a homosexual relationship in their place is another case though

 

I would be weirded out because it's unlikely that they only started their relationship after graduation.

 

No. They are both consenting adults. If they want to be together I'd say more power to them.

 

Have you not realised the fact that pretty much everyone is a graduated student? :lol:

 

Yeah it's fine. One teacher I had now has 2 kids with an ex student of his, but they both got together in their early 20's.

 

Seems fine to me.

 

When I was in high school, a girl who was two grades above me dated her history teacher. She was 15 when they started dating, he was in his early thirties. They're still together now (it's been about 8 years). Although I would still say such an age gap is never healthy, I have somewhat changed my opinion on student/teacher relationships. They can be unhealthy due to power dynamics, yes... but they definitely don't always have to be. That girl and her teacher seemed to have a great relationship (everyone knew), and to this day they've made it work and still seem happy.

So no, I don't think all student/teacher relationships are bad.

 

True. :lol:

 

It's absolu-effing-tely fine.

 

I have been a teacher for the past several years, well, more like an assistant teacher, I help my supervisor with the exercises and stuff. The first thing they tell you is that teacher-student relationships aren't forbidden, but they are strongly discouraged. In some cases, the teacher might even get disciplinary measures against him, if other colleagues or the faculty members find out.

I understand why sometimes it's so difficult to respect these guidelines. Many of my students are in their early twenties and look damn' fine. I'd definitely hit on them if we were in a bar or somewhere else. Okay, now that turned into something else...

 

I almost dated a teacher but we called it off before it started because it's a grey area.. I'm still a student and we didn't want to break any rules. Obviously I can't tell how the relationship would've worked out, but I would've been open to seeing him so I think it's okay for a teacher to date a student as long as it's safe for both people and based on mutual consent.