Sudden lost of interest in my crush???

Fear not, it's perfectly natural. I once had a crush on a guy from when I was 9 to when I was about 12. One day just BOOM! No crush at all.

 

problem solved. sometimes we are really crushing on a fantasy image that we have in our mind, rather than the actual person. as this has gone on for a while, it may be that the reality of the person has entered into some level of your mind, and it's not as exhilarating as you hoped. But maybe this is the time to get to know him better as a friend, and see what develops. Who knows, he may end up falling for you, and you might not feel the same way. Strange things happen in relationships, but it's one hell of a ride!

 

Hi nothereanymo,

I am going to echo what the other people have said on here. It is perfectly normal to have crushes on people and then all of a sudden, they go without any explanation. it could be something they did, you did or you simply (as you said yourself) you got over it and you shouldn't guilty or sad because it's gone. If your friend is a 'true friend', they will understand move on and hopefully with your friendship in tact. Again, don't get upset or sad over this. It will be easily forgotten about in time, just live your life and there is plenty of time to find the one, I'm still looking if that helps?

 

This happens to me quite regularly,
I think when you majorly crush on someone, in your mind you think about how amazing it will be together and you do obsess over it. Over time though your mind subconsciously realises that it is just a fantasy and you convince yourself it will never be as good as you think it will be.

 

It's similar to what happens when people fall in love, get married, and then after a few years face a crisis because they don't feel in love any more. consider this an extremely mild case of it, because it doesn't have the intensity of a full blown relationship.

 

Maybe you're just scared. You decided to finally tell him how you feel and you are uncertain of how he feels, how he will react or how your friendship will be affected.

I think your brain is just trying to downplay the feelings so that you won't have to go through with telling him how you feel. It is safer to just keep him as a friend... less risk of "losing him" altogether....

I don't think you are actually "over it" at all. You wouldn't still be thinking of hum constantly... even out if habit.

 

Perfect advice..can't top this Good one Wildside

 

^ Exactly. And this happens to quite a lot of people in serious relationships. One day you're crazy about each other, and have been for as long as you can remember, then the next, there's practically nothing. No spark, no love, nearly no attraction at all. Love is as unpredictable as nature, and there's no way to escape it, or to change it. The best you can do is go along for the ride~

 

brain chemistry plays a part. and when the chemistry returns to its original balance, the obsession with that person fades. check this out: The science of love

 

Happens all of the time to me.

Sometimes you get to know them a little better and you don't find what you thought was there.