Hi! I'm Gem and I've been reading a lot of threads here lately. I found them really helpful, so might as well share my story. First of all, Im gay. I came to terms with my sexuality 3 years ago, but I pretty much knew it since I was a kid. Anyway, here's my current dilemma. I currently have strong romantic feelings towards my best friend (sort of) whom I'm not sure whether he's straight or whatever. We've been friends for almost 7 years now, but I only acknowledged my feelings for him 3 years ago. He was actually the reason how I knew I was gay. I've never liked a guy before, sure I watch gay porn, but hey, I thought I was at least bi. lol. By the way, I haven't come out to him yet (idiot). The thing is, we're very close. We text each other almost every day, the whole day. We came from the same town, but since we go to different universities, we don't see each other very much. However, every time he goes here in the capital, we always meet, watch movies, eat, talk, eat more, talk more. Now I assume he's straight because he had girlfriends before, and well, he hasn't come out yet. I feel strongly for him and I think I love him. I can't sstop thinking about him, I've had sleepless night, and I cry very often. I'm studying psychology and I know that this has to stop. My friends say that he doesn't seem straight based on my accounts and I should tell him already. I really want this anxiety to stop but I still am not sure if I should tell him. I value our friendship a lot and I don't want him to distance himself from me. I will absolutely appreciate if you guys could offer some input/ opinion. Thanks very much and it's nice being a member here.
Well, one possibiliy would be you might tell him... and if he does not reciprocate you might suggest to stay friends... you might think about going to a lgbt club...
I was in the same situation I just came out to him... from the response and questions you get you know pretty shure if there is a chance that they are interested...
Hi! So, how did it go? I'll be seeing him tomorrow and I'm really contemplating on telling him that I like him, or that I'm gay at least. :/ And hey, english is also not my native language, I also live in a homophobic country, and I'm also an atheist. Lol.
I agree with others. I think your best bet is to just tell him you are gay if that is something you are comfortable with. You know him best so only you will know if this is something you are comfortable with. His reaction may give you some more clues if he has similar feelings towards you. Be sure to listen to him though and respect what he has to say or it may cause some problems in your friendship. If he backs off a little then let him have a bit of space. If you push for your own agenda here than it may end up being a worse scenario than now.
well, his responde was kinda like "I don't know how to answer that" followed by a 2 hour talk about love, relationships, equal rights, etc... one of the first questions was "You know I am not gay, but how can you not find boobs attractive? Not to be rude but I can't imagine that...?" I think that sums it up :roflmao:
