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What do I do?

Discussion in 'Family, Friends, and Relationships' started by OddPink1, Feb 16, 2015.

  1. OddPink1

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    Hello again.
    For those who have been following my story so far you may know that I came out to my parents about a week ago, feels like a lifetime now :confused:, and they haven't exactly been the most supportive.
    So I saw the local GP today, and he suggested that I see a psychiatrist who specialises in gender dysphoria, and recommended one too me.
    But thats not what I'm asking about. My Dad has been going through medical depression, I think Mum is calling it, and he isn't accepting of what I am. He's insisted that I pretend that nothing is going on and that I act like everything is normal, which makes me think he doesn't want me to go through with this change, and I know he just trying to deal with this, but he's resorted into threatening to ban the internet from me if I use this site, the site that's my support. I don't know what to do, and I so desperately want things to change :icon_sad: .
    Any advice is appreciated (*hug*)
     
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    Hey there,

    Not exactly the same thing but my wife suffers from depression as your dad.
    It is such an awful disease because everything in the person's mind is so over the top.
    Meaning everything seems to be such a big deal. He is not in his right frame of mind to really understand what your dealing with right now.

    My suggestion would be to allow his meds to work and not push the issue.
    Although I know that is tough to do but when someone is going thru depression its such a fragile time.
     
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    First, the good thing is things are moving along and you are seeing a gender specialist.
    They should help you.

    Concerning your dad, its possible he has some stress and therefore is depressed. It might be from his work.
    It might be his way to react to not have to deal with more stress.

    You might tell your mother that this makes you as sick as he is, since it gives you depression also.
    Maybe you could reach some agreement that you move along without him being much in the picture. He should allow you to do what you need, without being a source of stress for him.

    Or you could wait until you have seen the gender therapist.

    hugs
     
  4. OddPink1

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    Thanks guys
    Dad just talked to me, he said that when he said normal, he meant acting how I used to act around him, so no awkward silences that kind of thing.
    I still need to talk to my parents about how they can be upsetting me at times, it doesn't help they don't exactly say what they mean.
    Its not so much Dad's depression that getting me, its more of what both he and Mum say to me. And when I spoke to the Doctor, I realised how little my parents really knew about the situation, even my Mum, because the Doctor brought up how hard it must of been to come out that kind of thing, but when I came out to Mum and Dad, they thought it was easy, wondering why I didn't do it sooner.
    The thing is though, as hard a time I'm having dealing with this, its even harder to work up the courage to act upon it. I have no idea what to say, how they'll react, or if they'll even listen to me in the first place :confused: .
     
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    I'd say think positive, and keep going...
    talk to them...
    and talk about this with you new therapist. (*hug*)(&&&)
     
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