I have met A girl on one of these online dating apps. She is really beautiful and we seem to have a lot in common. I am kinda nervous because i have just recently finally accepted that i am a lesbian. I have always known but did not start acting on it until now. I am pretty nervous that this will be a deal breaker for her. I have not come out to my family and do not see my self doing so in the near future. I am really ready to put myself out there and find someone for me. But i am scared she will run for the hills. Should this be something to worry about or should i just take the chance and see what happens?:bang:
it depends, i mean you could always say youre not out to her. she might then want to just be friends but might want to carry on dates e.t.c. it depends thought some people can date closeted people, some cant. it is a problem further down the road though for a lot as they might want to introduce you to their family or even move in together or even get married, but you might not be comfortable and your s/o might not like having to keep saying oh xxxx is just a friend. it can be a problem, but sometimes isnt. the most important thing though is that whoever you do end up with is supportive, thats the main thing whether youre out or not.
I have been nervous about approaching this first meet up. If all that comes out of the meet up is friendship, I will take it. At least to have someone I can confide in and help me with my coming out progress. But if she happens to be fine with it and wants to progress into something deeper, that will be a plus to! Thank you for the help!
I met my now girlfriend on one of those apps, too. To be honest, I didn't even really think about telling her if I'm out or not during chats or on our first date. But we clicked right away and when I told her that my family doesn't know yet, she was fine with it. And having a girlfriend or dating someone who you think might become your girlfriend helped me a lot with coming out to my family because now there was a reason to do so.