Hi! I need some advice about whether or not to tell the guy I am dating that I am bisexual. I really like him but I am so confused whether to tell him or not! I feel like it´s not fair to him if I keep this from him. But at the same time, we haven´t met so many times. Gaah, I´m so confused about many things in my life right now! :rolle:
You're not really keeping it from him. If the topic doesn't come up, then don't bother talking about it. If he doesn't need to know, it's not an issue. It's unlikely that you being bisexual will affect him in any real way other than if he's anti-gay (hopefully he's not) or if you make comments about women you find attractive. That's the way I deal with people knowing my sexuality. Basically, unless it relates to the topic of conversation, I don't bother talking about it.
Or if he assumes, hot damn, can we have a threesome... I've definitely telling all the guys I go out with that I'm bisexual, but haven't dated any women yet since coming out and separating. I probably would if things were going to get intimate, only because it's part of sexual history disclosure...
Yes I agree, if the topic doesn´t come up I will wait with saying it. I wish I had more bi/ gay ppl among my friends...
Bisexuality is a happy little grey area. Disclosure is up to you. If you are involved with a man, you are in a heterosexual relationship. He has no need or right to know anything beyond that. However, I can understand the drive for full disclosure, particularly if its someone you feel like you can share everything with. Ultimately, it's your call. Everyone I have ever been involved with has known I'm not heterosexual, but that disclosure was always optional.
