New relationships, the problem of being bi...

I wanted get get people's views on here on an issue, I think is somewhat unique to bisexual people, when dating and entering new relationships.

You see, I have recently been getting back into the dating game now I've been separated a while. But the difficulty about me being bi, is that for every new person I may enter a relationship with, if I want to be honest about who I am, I essentially have to come out again and again. If I go out with someone of the other gender, I'm assumed to be hetero and if it's of the same I'm assumed to be homo. Now, if you fall into one of those two groups, then that's fine as your orientation is already correctly assumed and the need to come out is negated and there's no problem.

However, if I come out as bi, it can often be a deal breaker. As such, it can create a closeting effect making me reluctant to hosetly come out. This is by no means out if fear or shame, but more out of concern I could be sabotaging my chances. Now I know, one could argue that people who wouldn't date me because of my orientation aren't worth dating, but when you really like someone, you almost don't want to risk spoiling things.

So it's a bit if a paradox between being honest and true to yourself, against sometimes hiding part of yourself over the potential consequences of losing someone you are attracted too.

Sorry for the long post. What are your thoughs on this?

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