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Is there any way to get along with my mom?!?

Discussion in 'Family, Friends, and Relationships' started by CyberStar, Mar 16, 2015.

  1. CyberStar

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    A few weeks ago, I got back from the hospital. I went there because I got sent to the ER after I told the school about suicidal thoughts I'd been having (gone now, thank God). Ever since then, my mom has been a complete ass about certain things, such as saying "but I can't [perform action] because you'll just [write another email | tell everybody]". I confronted her about this.
    Me: "You act like I didn't have a good reason to send those emails"
    Her: "Oh yeah? And what was your reason?"
    Me: "Because I was feeling suicidal?!?"
    Her: "Well, there's the hospital bill right there." [gestures at $3000 bill that we can't afford on the arm of the couch]
    Me: "Well, would you rather me be dead?"
    Her: [goes ballistic]
    As you can imagine, that went well. But it keeps happening. I don't know what to do.
     
  2. resu

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    Seems like she needs to see a mental health counselor. Maybe you could be there with you, but she may be more comfortable talking on her own.
     
  3. Cesar123

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    Hey Cyberstar! I very sorry that you have to experience / experienced such turmoil in life. The feeling as if you want to end your life is never good - and should always be addressed by a professional. What your mother is experience is stress. Financial stress is one of the most common form of stress and awful thing to go through ( can literally take years off your life!). Now with this in mind, I want you to put yourself in her shoes and experience what she is feeling right now. She is a mother who coupled with a financial burden is worried about her possible suicidal daughter. I understand that this is NOT your fault but it worries her and this, tagged along with the financial stress, can make people say things they will regret. I can not say that the road ahead of you is of diamonds because you survived this and that you to will never fight again but I just want you right now to understand that what your mother is saying is NOT coming from the heart but coming from a conscious that is under A LOT of stress and A LOT of anxiety. If you wish to help your relationship, I would remind your mother that you love her, don't take the fights to heart, and discover what triggered these suicidal thoughts ( so that you may prevent from occurring again ). You can do this by seeking counseling at your school or even finding a really good friend to hear you talk - hell, I'll be that friend if you don't wanna tell anyone else. The worst thing you can do it take your life and it will only bring further pain to your mother ( who might blame herself for your death ). Remember to always voice your concerns because bottling them up can be a deadly poison and remember that everything is temporary ( these fights will pass ).

    Screen Hug (*hug*)
    Cesar