Homophobic sister coming over this weekend

Right now I am living my with parents who accept my sexuality and stuff like that but my sister and her husband are very unaccepting of it for their own selfish reasons. Basically the rumor is his family being rich republicans are very traditional about homosexuality and for that reason my sister chooses the respect of her husband's family over me. The weirdest part is her husband is still civil to me despite secretly complaining about me to my sister. He is kind of a coward in that regard. They probably don't even know i had to moved back home cause my boyfriend died and it will be a shock to them. I was gone for a year and a half so that gave them a lot of peace and comfort knowing I was away from home. I mean despite hating me they sent me gifts for christmas once and once sent me a picture of their two year old daughter. I even tried to contact my sister with no response.

They are probably mad at me to cause my brother in law's sister started a horrible rumor about me and my bf a year and half ago and when I finally found out it was her i confronted her on facebook and it happened to be the same day her grandma died. So of course they think i was taking advantage of the situation probably when I had no idea of the death until days later. So i told my parents their visit won't be awkward but honestly I am dreading it. So I need some support anything will do.

 

Thanks. I can imagine the best possible thing probably would just be them not talking to me which I rather have them do. Or they could be in confrontational mode but I really do not know what their thinking now since I been gone a long time.

 

Yeah I will get through it no matter what. It is just gonna be what it is. My sister always been a manipulative person who plays games to get what she wants. She uses every little I am do or do against me so it's very hard to deal with her. I mean it would be perfectly alright if a friend was gay but for some selfish reason her own brother being gay is a embarrassing thing. No one in my family and I mean my whole family including my homophobic grandparents treat me like this but her.

 

They are staying Friday night to Sunday only. i asked a friend if I can hang out with him for a few hours over the weekend and he is still not sure of anything yet. I don't have a job right now but I'll figure out something to do with my time. The worst thing that could possibly happen is them ignoring me and I would actually be glad for that. I don't even know if they know i moved back home.

 

They are the kind who will talk bad behind your back but won't say it to your face. Believe me the times where my sister preferred complaining about me to my parents rather than confront me. Her husband is worse where he'll complain to my sister but won't say anything in person. Kind of a coward in that respect. You see he comes from a rich conservative catholic family where homosexuality is apparently unacceptable. It is rumored that the root of it is her father in law who is aggressively homophobic and so basically she rather have his respect than have a relationship with her brother. It is all a part of a game she plays and I think she is just doing it as a way to cut me out of her life. I think she's been looking for any excuse to shut me out for years and me being gay is it. I think pretending they are not really there and minding my own business is the best thing,

 

I think i rather just let it play out. Believe me they are not gonna be hostile or anything. The only think that might happen is periods of awkward silence. Having a private conservation is just too much for me. I am not big on in person emotions and I'll just let it play out and be what it is. I am probably overlooking things anyway. Believe me I mentioned being civil and respectful for our parent's sake a few times and it doesn't work with her. She is like a wall and everything is on her terms. Talking to a wall gets pathetic after awhile. If you care to read several threads on the situation with my sister you could take a look at the drama.

 

Everything is going ok for the most part. No confrontations, or really awkward conversations. My sister barely talks to me but her husband is very civil with me and acknowledges me. He is the kind of person that kind of puts on a straight face and plays it cool and you don't really know what he is really thinking about anything. That always been his personality or whatever my sister says could all be in her head and he is not really having any problems with anything. I am not a psychologist so i don't know. Yes i think she always did need therapy lol.

 

Well they left to go to his parent's place and it went ok I guess. Jeez the women are so intense in my family with everything. Sometimes way too critical of everything. it drives me nuts.