Is my guy best friend gay? And giving me hints?

Well this is a difficult question, because we are not there, nor are we your friend.

Also known things like demisexual, or asexual are legitimate things. I'm not saying your friend is either of those things yet it's something to keep in mind.

Honestly the best way, in my opinion, to get someone's trust is making it clear you you are fine with friends being of whatever orientation. Trust is also something that typically builds over time and is a very give and take thing.

Also consider you could be making connections that don't exist due to your perceived crush. Again this may not be true in your situation, just keep it in mind.

No matter what at the very least you two seem to be good friends. Hold onto that, you're very lucky to have a friend like that.

Finally don't pressure him with the "Are you gay?" question. I'm not sure what your personal experience was with your bisexuality but when I was just starting to think maybe I'm gay, and someone asked me "are you gay?" that scared the hell out of me. Even if I knew they were accepting because I was at the time still dealing with a sense of loss of identity.

Hope I helped in some way. Or at least gave you some things to think about.

 

I don't know about you but this sounds like someone's either:
A) In the closet
B) Questioning their sexuality
C) In denial

 

I agree based off what was said one of these could be likely.

 

To me it sounds like your friend might be questioning his sexuality but isn't ready to talk about it yet. I could be totally wrong about that, though.

Since you have a crush on him, you might see connections that aren't there (I do that all the time) but it's hard to judge as an outsider. Do some of your other friends know that you're bisexual and that you like him? Maybe you can ask them what they think of the situation (but remember they might be wrong, too).

As long as you having a crush on him doesn't hurt you too much, try holding on to your friendship, wait for a few weeks and then try talking about sexuality or your relationship as friends or otherwise with him again. If he doesn't want to talk, that's his decision, but you can still try again.

 

Idk if this is a stupid question but i dont think you mentioned if he knows your sexual orientation? If he doesnt it sounds like hes giving you alot of hints maybe hes affraid you will act some type of way and stop being his friend, you should start sending him somme messages back or just have some alone time together and talk and be real with each other

 

I think the best way to let him know that you trust him and want him to trust you would be to come out to him. Next time you get a chance along with him, you could say something along the lines of:

"Hey, there's something I wanted to tell you. Since you're my best friend I feel like you should know, and I want you to know that I trust you and that you can trust me. So I just want to tell you that I'm bisexual. I hope this doesn't change your opinion of me or affect our friendship because that means a lot to me. I just wanted you to know."

If he reacts badly, his loss. I doubt he will though.
If he is actually bi/gay/curious, he will probably feel a bit more comfortable to talk to you about this stuff.

Good luck, keep us updated

 

I agree. I realise that it could be pretty hard for you to come out to him, especially because you like him a lot but if you think that he might be gay/bi and you open up to him, he might find the courage to open up to you too.

 

If he's getting annoyed that you are "anti-gay" coming out will probably dispel those concerns from him. Also I should point out that if he is getting annoyed at your perceived anti-gayness it's a good indicator that he's at least a straight ally if not actually part of the LGBT community.

That said only come out if you think it's safe to do so, and you feel that you are ready. Don't feel pressure from us to come out.

 

i kinda get where you are coming from but here is a video that helped me with my guy friend crush https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-7S9A-pMVWY

 

He sounds like my roommate lol, I've been living with him for about 4 years now and we have gotten so close over the years. I still can't figure what his sexual orientation. I think he is straight, but then he always play/mess around with me. Like grab my ass, hug, cuddle and even slept at the same bed. I kissed him before, he just say "GAYYY" every time I make out with his neck. I don't know I know he likes girls but then I'm also confuse if he likes guys as well. Sorta the same situation with my roommate but we are more sexually intimate lmao. You should just try make a move on him, like if you guys are alone. or try watching porn together and see what happens. lol nothing wrong with testing the water and flirt with him hardcore and see if he flirts back. Obviously if he gets uncomfortable just simply back off.. He sounds like he is really laid back and curious.. Its worth the try..

 

Well, at least you've told him now about your orientation. Now it's up to him if he wants to talk to you about it more.

But if he goes on like this with the flirty stuff for a while, maybe you should just own up and let him know you have feelings for him.

Just make sure he knows that you understand if he doesn't feel the same way, but that you just wanted to tell him.

 

Please do NOT follow this advice, at least not yet.

You have made a big step forward by telling him you orientation, congratulations and he opened to you a little more thanks to it. As Whiteshadows said, give him some time, see where it goes. If you still feel like he is intimate with you after what you have told him, you can either tell him you like him, or make a move on him.