So there is this guy. I have made a few other posts about him. We have been talking and stuff, and me and another friend have been thinking we may be on to something. Here are a few things that he does: Acts different when we are alone. Says a lot of gay sexual things (when we are alone) Winks at me. Before I started talking to him he stole glances a lot. He does what me and my friend suspect to be subtle "flirting" Now here is the problem: I want to get the message to him that I am interested. But I want it to be subtle. I go to a really homophobic school so I don't think he will answer truthfully if I ask him. What are some things that I should watch for when talking to him. These are a few things that I noticed and have thought of. Any help would be good and I will answer any questions you might have.
whatever you do, i would NOT tell him you are interested in him, or make any kind of move. that will likely not end very good if he has not "found himself" yet. guess you can start by telling him you're Bi/gay? which i assume you haven't? that will at least open things up and if he is interested too, he'll eventually show more "signs".
Well the thing is I want to make it subtle. I don't plan on telling him straight up. The main thing that made me think he might be interested is the way he acts. I mentioned a few things above.
the most immediate subtle thing, seems to be to do back exactly what he does, That way.. Any questions can be returned with, "but you do that to me " Then as time goes on, just turn it up little by little , and see how things progress at each leavel. The more intense you get , the more you will see what you need to know. However keep it subtle and around the same type of things he does. You can just go the extra half mile or so ;-) Good luck
Have you told him youre bi? that is probably the easiest and subtle way to get him to open up if he's into you..
The thing is I go to a really homophobic school. Like if people think you are gay they will bully the **** out of you. Thats the only thing holding me back.
Talk about LGBT issues that are in the public domain such a equality and anti discrimination legislation, maybe discuss LGBT characters on popular shows. Those are subtle discussion topics.
Have you tried being more flirtatious with him? Do subtle things like compliment him, but don't make it an awkward compliment. Just say something like "that shirt looks nice on you" or whatever the sitation calls for. I don't know how homophobic you're talking, but if he is gay or bi, he's probably just as afraid as you are about being open. And the good news is that if he actually is, he probably will be really grateful to see you making an effort. So like I said, try subtle flirting at first and as time goes on, if you grow closer, try breaking the touch barrier. It sounds scary, but it can be as simple as touching his hand "on accident' or sitting so your leg touches. It may sound dumb, but I have found it an effective way to gauge how willing the guy is to touch another guy. Just my two cents. Good luck!