My Lesbian girlfriend just came out as straight?

Hey cloudyday, welcome to EC!

There are two issues here:

1) her questioning

2) her infidelity

The first is an honest admission on her part of what she is going through, unfortunately, there isn't much you can do about that.

The second is more serious. Infidelity is not about fooling around physically with someone other than your partner, it also involves emotional infidelity, straying eyes which are heightened by our ability to communicate so freely with others.

You need to call it what it is: a betrayal, whether something happened or not, the time she is spending flirting and sending pictures is simply unacceptable for the relationship to remain standing.

Your task is to judge whether this is acceptable to you, and if it isn't, only you know what needs to be done.

 

Well the issue here is that she sent that provocative image, despite her telling you that she loved you. I'm not saying this because I want you guys to break up, but I think you're honestly better off without her right now, since you know, I have a feeling it's only a matter of time till she confronts you about wanting to be officially straight. Plus, she seemed to respond to those guys which is a pretty huge sign that she may be cheating on you. (Because as long as she isn't being honest about everything to you, and hides stuff from you, that's cheating)

But it's really your decision since you'll know if you can work it out or not.
Best wishes.

 

It would be good to know more context. How old is she? Did she sleep with guys before your relationship? Do her parents approve of your relationship?
It would be very weird for someone to make such a big change from lesbian to straight. I think we are facing three options

1) She is curious and wants to experiment
2) She is bisexual and suddenly misses guys
3) She is a lesbian but she hasn't accepted herself and wants to be straight.

In any case, she is going quite fast and is contacting other people behing your back. If she wants to be with a guy,she should talk with you before about her sexuality, and not chat with guys behing your back

You have information about her. What of the options do you think is the most probable?

 

What the fuck? For fuck sake! I swear to god I hope I never get a girlfriend like this! First and for most ''ew'' that she finds guys attractive :eek: no offense but wtf :lol: Once I got turned on by a girl I never really understood straight girl attractions. I never did to begin with I think. Anyway.. Tell her you want nothing to do with her (if that's how you feel) Because that is CERTAINLY how I would feel! I would HATE it if a girl I was dating suddenly seen guys as more appealing then me (if that's how she thinks of you.. throw the bitch out) Seriously.. that's messed up. Good luck.

 

You need to have a honest conversation with her and fast. It'll hurt op, but you'll save a lot of heartbreak and TIME later on. She needs to tell you the truth about what's going on with her head, she's owes you at least that as her lover. Other guys should not be the focus in this relationship only you.