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Would any girl ever date a crazy closet case like me?

Discussion in 'Family, Friends, and Relationships' started by sporn, Apr 8, 2015.

  1. sporn

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    I'm really depressed because I don't think any girl will want to date someone with my sexuality issues. I know guys do, but I'm not a huge fan of straight relationships. Due to obsessive compulsive tendencies(not sure if it's OCD) I'm constantly obsessing about my sexual orientation and related topics.

    I often feel like my sexuality is getting attacked by the universe. I get these feelings whenever I get male attention, I notice attractive guys, people label me bi or people push me to date men. When these things happen I feel really depressed, pissed off and a bit sick to my stomach. I once took an aspirin because of intrusive thoughts that were making me sick to my stomach.

    I don't think I'll be able to come out of the closet because I think most people will doubt my sexuality. That's the reason this obsession even started. Even if they aren't doubting me I'll probably make up reasons why they're doubting me. I also think people will ask what orientation is. I hate that question.
     
  2. TeaCupQueer

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    I'm sure girls will love you and don't let people who doubt you get you down, the only person who needs to know you're serious is you. Let them doubt, at least you know the truth.
     
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    Well, don't lose faith because someone out there will love you all the same, even if you have sexuality issues. In my case my friends wouldn't accept me as bi since according to them, I shouldn't since it would be a waste of some sort (because I apparently attract the opposite sex a lot where I come from), so I kind of understand where you're coming from. Just try little by little to really build confidence and tell them that no, you're not bi and you just don't want to date men.
     
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    People with Down's or Autism or Multiple Sclerosis get dates, and people like me who have "everything going for them" sometimes don't (and I'm talking years, not months or weeks).

    How do you know the guys were "attractive" if they do nothing for you? It sounds like maybe you're in conflict with another part of yourself? It's not like you have to pick one group OR another. It's OK if you find some guys and some girls attractive.

    And if you feel like you're not in control of your own destiny -- welcome to the club!! There seems to be this idea in society that a person is just ONE person. But if that's true, how can people be indecisive or hold multiple opinions or preferences about stuff?