Accidental drama between my crush and a new friend.

Honestly I think it is very childish of Jordan to blame you for what happened. Regardless of whether or not Erin had found out about his crush on her, she does not like him. It's not your fault that Erin does not have romantic feelings for him, especially since this whole thing was an accident. And constantly telling you that he hates you for this is really immature. I think Jordan needs to grow up. Jordan has no claim to Erin so you're not stealing her. Who Erin decides to date is up to her and if she decides she wants to date you then Jordan needs to respect that. If he really did like her then he'd want her to be happy. I don't know if I would go after her right away because she herself is probably feeling upset of having to turn someone down and being involved with all this drama. I'd wait until everyone calms down and then make a move.

 

I understand why you feel bad about this but you were in a difficult situation and you didn't tell her about his crush on purpose. How long ago did Jordan find out that you accidentally let Erin know about his crush? Maybe he just needs a few days to calm down. It's not nice of him to tell you that he hates you, and you can tell him to stop. I'm just hoping that he will stop on his own and realise that he over-reacted.

PunkRockKitten is absolutely right when she says that you're not stealing anybody from anyone. You can't steal a person. Just because Jordan has had a crush on Erin longer than you have, he doesn't have a right to go out with her or even ask her out more than you do. It's Erin's decision. She told you that she's not interested in Jordan romantically, so he needs to accept that. Of course, he could have found out about this in a way that would have been less hurtful to him, but blaming you is not a solution.

She probably doesn't know that you have feelings for her, so if you suspect that she likes you back, you could just be honest with her and tell her. Maybe not right now, but you don't have to wait months just because she had to turn someone else down.
Good luck!

 

To avoid more drama you should do your best to be the bigger person. Don't stoop to his level or snap back at him. If he says he hates you tell him that that's very hurtful and if he isn't going to act respectfully to you then you would rather he not talk to you, and say this calmly. If he continues then my best advice is to just ignore him. When people say hurtful things they're looking for a reaction. If you don't give him one then he'll stop eventually. And Erin should probably tell him how she feels. You can't be the one to tell him because he'll think you're just saying that because your mad. If you could, it might help the situation if you ask Erin to tell Jordan that she doesn't like him.