Tips for discussion while on dates?

I've always found that interests drive my conversation. I love to read and I listen to and play music. Also, art. History, and other topics. I guess the short answer is that I find a person who shares some of these. For example, my last ex and I lived together for 8 years. We were totally incompatible on music, but we had most of the other big things in common. All that time we never ran out of things to say. But then, it's always a little awkward early in a relationship. Give it some time.

 

Ask questions. Get to know her. Her get to know you. Sounds silly but it's fun. What's her fav color? Ice cream? Music? How does she like her eggs? You can think of the questions in ur head or search online. There's lots. It's fun. Good luck!

 

^^ This.

Do things together that don't give you a lot of time for really awkward silences. For example, going to dinner is a high pressure situation because you have to sit face to face and talk the entire night about whatever. However, going grocery shopping and making dinner together gives you a chance to do an activity with built in communication (pass this, mix that, do you want to do this, etc.). Then when you are eating you can talk about parts you like, don't like, how it turned out, etc. This way you also get to know her better, see how you work together, and enjoy food.

That is just one example, but anytime you can do something together or own your own, it lengthens the time together and minimizes face to face talking. Plus as resu mentioned, it builds memories that help with talking points down the road (remember when we.. x). Over time, those silences aren't awkward and you will just learn to embrace each others company even when there is nothing to talk about.

 

Something I've learned is that you can't truly enjoy talking until you can enjoy the silence. If you're comfortable not talking, there's no pressure to keep a conversation flowing because there's no awkwardness to avoid.