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Help! Went to meet LDR and need to leave the country

Discussion in 'Family, Friends, and Relationships' started by HBI, Apr 25, 2015.

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  1. HBI

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    Hi, after two years in a LDR, I literally flew around the world to meet my girlfriend. She told me how she never wants to be with anyone else, and I'm her love, and her one and only. I thought that meant it was safe to say I love you. So I did. I got dead silence as a response and two minutes later she said she cared so much about me, I was extremely important, but no I love you. She knows she hurt me. She wiped the tear that slipped out. She
    continued to tell me I was hers and that I made her happy. My plan is to slip out of the country and never have contact with her again. I flew around the world for her, how could she not know I loved her. My obstacle is my travel agent is closed and so is my airline. Will the US embassy help me get a booking out of here? Is there any reason to stick it out?
     
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    I feel as if that may be a bit drastic over something so simple. Try talking about it with her before destroying a long term relationship. Maybe her reasons for not saying I love you have nothing to do with you.
     
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    Sorry, but I have to disagree with your use of the word simple. This girl knew I came from an abusive relationship, and had not dated in years because of it. At my age the opportunities to find love are close to non existent. I won't be burned again. She obviously doesn't want to talk about it, and I won't bring it up. She doesn't deserve my love.
     
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    First your chances are not zero to find love. They solely depend on you, and if you are a nice person you will find someone in time.


    If you calm down for a few moments and think about it, what does your inner voice say about the situation ?


    If you calm down, it is some kind of deeper inner knowing.
     
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  5. HBI

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    I can't be nice to her after this. That's a huge problem.
     
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    This was generally speaking, as in being a normal person.

    What would you like to do now ?
     
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    Go home.

    ---------- Post added 25th Apr 2015 at 07:43 PM ----------

    If I had known she didn't love me, I never would have had sex with her. If I'm stuck here until the airline opens, I have to tell her no more sex without love.
     
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    It might be possible other airlines accept your ticket if they have the capaity (free seats).
    You might ask.
     
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    Thanks
     
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    I personally have missed a flight and have the ticket accepted by another airline.


    Well I cannot tell you what to do.


    This inner knowing is basically alll we have.


    You say she did not reciprocate.

    One option might be to talk with her the next day and say that she does not reciprocate,
    and maybe even that you want compensation for half of your expenses ( your flight ) .

    Not getting in a huge fight but stating this simply as matter of fact.

    I do not know how much you would like to avoid such a talk, or even if it makes sense.


    I personally would say your feelings are understandable.


    And I'd say listen to your inner voice.
    Its often like a feeling of some kind of inner knowing.


    Then some mental chatter begins... like you mentioned statistics or whatever...


    have a big (*hug*)
     
    #10 jay777, Apr 25, 2015
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