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Bi, in love with my Bestfriend

Discussion in 'Family, Friends, and Relationships' started by Barghbargh457, Apr 30, 2015.

  1. Barghbargh457

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    So, Ill start from the beginning. Me and my best friend met in ninth grade. We somehow got so close throughout this last year and half, were in 10th now. We tell each other were family and that were brothers forever and he always says how hes never going to leave me. We tell each other we love each other and other lovey dovey stuff all the time. Were always together. In school and outside of school. We hang out every weekend and even some week days. We go on every vacation together, we text 24/7 and really, were like brothers. Hes very muscular, cares a lot about how he looks and not to be stereotypical but just wanted to throw it out there. Basically, we cuddle every time we hangout (even when hes just in his boxers) we hug often, kiss on the cheek, tell each other how much we love each other and our brotherhood, we even came up with a new rule recently that we have to be completely open with each other. We flashed each other, change in front of each other, walk around naked, compare each other things. He has only hooked up three times, never had a gf. when we cuddle he holds me so tight and when we hold hands hes kissed it before, But he also says how if i was gay we wouldnt be this close and we wouldnt hang out as much and he says how when he watches porn its only girl on girl and boy on girl and iv seen his browser before so hes not lying. We also hold hands and whenever we kiss on the cheek its like cheek to cheek not lips to cheek (Although we have done that a couple of times) I dont mind just being best friend/brothers but im bi and he doesnt know and if he is too i wouldnt mind being w him. I just dont want to loose him ever and idk what to do about it.
     
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    Just gather up courage and tell him. If he really cares for you, nothing will change. You can never tell what's going to happen but you cant hide that from him forever. I think, no wait, I believe he'll understand. Go for it.
     
  3. Barghbargh457

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    Thank you, I just wish there was a different way of knowing. If he knew i was Bi, that would most certainly be the end of how close we are, and i cant bare to think about that.
     
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    Unfortunately there isn't really anyway to absolutely tell for sure.

    But I will say he would seem to care for you very much from the little bit that you told us. Whether that's platonic or romantic..? Hard to tell. I've seen a lot of straight guys get really close with each other.

    Do you know how he feels about gays/bisexuals? Maybe try to figure out his position on the gay marriage situation in the courts in the U.S. If you don't.
     
  5. Barghbargh457

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    Well i know now hes not gay and just cares immensely for me, which is a big plus :slight_smile:
    He was showing me something on his crotch which involved me shifting through his pubic hairs, and i touched his shaft by accident, he bounced back and said i know that was by accident be more careful next time. However we did change in front of each other etc... I know hes not like that now and im glad i found out without loosing him