People talk to me like I'm straight because I dont fit the stereotype of gay. I guess you could say I'm straight acting, although I will say that I do not intentionally act straight. And I'd rather not go through the trouble of telling everyone that I'm gay. I don't advertise but I won't deny it if someone asked me. Anyone else been through this?
More people than you think…. You may only notice the 'loud' ones on the street .. but theres plenty of 'ordinary' folk out there except we know we are all EXTRAordinary
As someone who is so blatantly homosexual, it is not possible to never be confused as heterosexual unless you begin every interaction with a disclosure. We live in a heteronormative society. Assumptions come with the territory. Homosexuality is something that many heterosexuals don't often have to think about. They default on asking men about female companions and women about men. I could walk outside in a bright pink pride shirt and a heterosexual man will still ask me whether "I think this chick is hot" or "whether I've found the girl for me". It has literally happened before.
When I was involved with the GSA at school we would go out clubbing on the weekend. My friends told me to "gay it up" because I looked quite str8. They suggested a rainbow pin or jewelry and maybe a tie-dye shirt. That did help a bit.
Totally agree with Gen. I get mistaken for straight all the time even though I'm rather masculine, so there's no way to avoid it sadly.
Yeah, it's frustrating. When people find out I'm gay, they don't believe me for a while. It's like I have to prove myself. Some people just need to realize that not all gay people are going to be totally obvious about their orientation. Some of us are just ordinary people who happen to be gay...
Yeah, that is the norm for me. Most people assume that I'm straight. I have had one girl who knew I was gay before I told her, but she has killer gaydar, so it makes sense that she picked up on me. Some other people have been able to notice it when they get to know me, but for the most part, the vibe isn't really there. It's just one of those things we have to kind of deal with. You're not alone in it.
I don't look gay either. I hate the idea of coming out because I just can't deal with people not believing me. It's easier if they just silently assume I'm straight.
Yeah, I hear ya. People have also asked whether I think this girl or that girl is hot and whether I would bang her or not. A little annoyed, but oh well. I troll a lot to so people don't believe me unless I have a straight face on and I keep reassuring them that yes, I'm gay. There's already rumours floating around my workplace that I'm gay. I'm not sure how that started but the only 2 people who asked if I was gay or not asked me quite loudly, so I think that's how it started. Oh well, 2 of my co workers are gay so that's ok.
