Hey guys One of my friends, let's call her T, recently told me that she likes a girl that we both know. The year is almost over, amd I'm hosting a party. So that girl in question, let's call her J, I have no idea if she likes my friend back. The thing is, T is not out, so J has absolutely no idea that she likes her. I always kind of though that J is a lesbian, but I'm not sure anymore. We've had a few conversations where J told me that she'd be "traumatised" if I had a crush on her (I'm openly gay), but then again, I feel that she likes the attention. Anyway, T wants to tell J at the party, or kiss her and blame it on the alcohol (typical). I think it would be rude for J, but I'm afraid she'll freak if T tells her... I'm hoping you guys understand what I'm trying to ask. I don't want to tell my friend to go for it, but at the same time I don't want her to give up hope. I dunno. What do you think?
You can't control what happens, but you could advise T that it may be easier to tell J before the party, so things don't get awkward if J really isn't into women.
