Hey-o everyone.. I turn 30 the first week in July. I had been starting to come to grips with it. I know it isn't "old" but I have been having a hard time with it. I am the youngest out of 4 and just seeing life keepin on truckin while I still feel left behind gets to me at times. Well with that being said. I may be turning 30, but I look very young. Most of the time people think I am 10 years younger than I am. It does make me feel good at times! Well my age was confused again and it wasn't a good time I was at the gym today and this extremely attractive guy was there. I had seen him before and he shot me glances, but I'm terribad at the flirting game (always have been) and I am still not out so I brushed it off. Well he was there again today sitting on his phone. I was just finishing up and started heading out. He ran out and caught me at my car. He said "I am going to be ballsy right now and ask you a question." I could feel the shocked "wtf" look on my face, haha. "Would you... like to go and do something some time? Like maybe food and a movie?" I said "...like a ...date?" When I said that his face turned white as a sheet. I know that feeling of dread all to well myself, haha. "Yes..?" (Now let me tell you again. This guy is so.damn.attractive that I can barely contain, but I also didn't want to yell it out for everyone to hear.) I said "Are you gay then?" He said "Yes." I said "Well I am bi (his face brightened) but I am not out at all." "That is fine! fine!" he said. Then the *bleh* happened. I turned to his truck and noticed the parking sticker for the college. I thought surely he is mid-twenties(I was too hopefull), he looks it... but I don't look my age. I asked him how old he was "17" -ouch- then I said "Oh.. I am really sorry, but I am an old man.. much too old for you." He asked how old I was and I said "30 in a few weeks." The look of shock and *damnit* on his face was verrry apparent haha. He said "oh, age is nothing but a number!" "Sorry buddy, but I can't. *sadface* I can be there for you though if you need something to talk about etc etc." "Okay...I still can't believe you are 30. I thought you were 19!" -.- /facedesk. :eusa_doh: I guess a person could say "you still got it!" but it really put a damper on everything for me. I will eventually kick myself out of that mood, but this one stung! Someone finally comes up to me then *boom* right in the chest. I never really ever get approached and asked out to anything. It was nice being asked, but... well dang I can't really express myself too well at the moment. I will just put "dang!" Anyone else go through anything similar? Or anyone have any great news they would like to share! Might help to read something great!
I definitely wouldn't see this as a negative (being mistaken for younger). Was it that he was 17 and not yet 18 that put you off? Or is there a set age difference that you would consider a deal breaker? You got hit on! That's a positive by anybody's standard. The one time I got hit on it was a girl (classmate I had gotten to know all semester, it was literally right after the final) and I had to... awkwardly stumble... through... the... "explanation".
I am not really good with the age gap. I had a gf that was 6 years younger than I was and I had a hard time with that as well. At 30 I can see myself dating someone 25, I could possibly go lower but only if they were mature... well on "my" maturity level ha! Yes, getting hit on does feel pretty good. One of these days I am sure the right one will happen for me.
Sounds like you did the right thing. Maybe you should ask if he has an older gay friend, lol! But, I do think it would be useful if you started to find some gay/bi friends around your age if only to help with the socialization aspects of coming out.
