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Confused about being attracted to my boyfriend

Discussion in 'Family, Friends, and Relationships' started by alexpm7, Jun 24, 2015.

  1. alexpm7

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    Hi, I'm new here. I joined because I'm really confused and I need help figuring this out.
    I've known I'm bisexual since I was a teen, but I've mostly had relationships with guys because of confidence issues, lack of acceptance by my family and some other stuff that has to do with the city I live in where homophobia is alive and well.
    I've been in casual relationships with girls and boys up until 3 years ago when I started dating my boyfriend. We love each other, he knows I'm bi and he's ok with it, we've had our problems but all in all we're a solid couple.
    The thing is, a few months ago I met a girl I was really attracted to. I obviously didn't act on it but, since then I've been thinking a lot about what it would be like to have a serious relationship with a girl. Or to just explore that side of me more.
    That feeling has been growing in me and a few weeks ago I think it started to affect my sexual relationship with my boyfriend. I don't get as turned on as before, and I expect things I know aren't going to happen. We've always had amazing sex, so I'm really confused about this.
    I just need someone to talk to.
     
  2. Ophelia

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    Hi, welcome to EC! :smilewave

    Is there a chance you feel like you have to repress that part of yourself because you are in a committed loving relationship? I know you're curious about a serious relationship with a woman, but maybe these feelings could be alleviated by incorporating them into your sexlife? For example, have you considered asking your boyfriend to tell you a story involving you and a woman during foreplay? Or is experimentation or an open arrangement (with only you seeing a woman) something he'd agree to? Whatever you do, don't worry, the way you're feeling right now doesn't mean there is anything wrong with you or your relationship.
     
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  3. benefit25

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    welcome to EC!

    I think that is definitely an issue with having not experimented enough. I would suggest that you consider talking to your bf about this since he is the one that is in the middle of this . I wish you the best of luck