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in love with best friend but she has a girlfriend

Discussion in 'Family, Friends, and Relationships' started by litchick, Jul 5, 2015.

  1. litchick

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    I realise it's really cliched writing this. But I've had feelings for one of my friends for a few years now. At first I suppressed them because I wasn't ready to acknowledge to myself I was gay, and because she had a longterm boyfriend. Since then she has told me she is bi - in the same conversation I came out to her as gay. She now has a girlfriend, who is very nice, but my friend told me the relationship isn't 'serious', whatever that means. Anyway, seeing my friend with her girlfriend is making me unhappy - and then I feel awful for feeling jealous of her girlfriend. It's getting to the point where I'm not sure whether I can socialise with them anymore, even though she's one of my best friends. I'd like to tell my friend that I have feelings for her, as I really don't want to repress things anymore. But I don't want to lose this friendship or break up my friend's relationship.

    I've tried dating websites to take my mind off my friend, but if anything it's making my feelings stronger for her.

    Any advice?
     
  2. proud2bme

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    read my post confusing friendship i wouldn't be surprsied if your in the same place as my friend maybe we can help each other?