Making new friends

Hi all.
I joined the forum today. This is my first post. I was nervous to join. I have been on and off the site over the past month just reading. It is indeed a very supportive community.
I'm posting here hoping to get some advice or even maybe make a friend.
I came out 10 years ago. My family and friends all know. I am in a comfortable place where I don't care who knows. I like who I am.
The problem is making friends in the gay community has never been easy for me. Living in Korea where it's almost impossible without using applications has proved disastrous and I have reached a point where the loneliness is taking its toll. I have no friends back in my own country (sad). I have had only 2 relationships in my life. Both ended awkwardly. One was in SA and the other here in Korea.
It seems that in order to make friends I need to look like a model and be into the scene with clubbing etc.
I am not that guy. I don't feel comfortable at all in those places.
I feel stupid that at my age I can't even make friends. I don't know how. I can't make gay friends here without them thinking i want to hook up. I do not do that. They throw me aside.

I can't return to my country unfortunately so I am hoping to make friends somehow.
Any advice?

Thank you so much.