Hi, everyone! I am a new member at this forum. If just be honest I registered because I really need an advise and I am just confused now. Shortly about myself. I am a girl. My age is 29 years old. I am a student in ESL school. I am studying English about two years. Originally I came from Russia. As many of us know that it is a very homophobic country. Actually, this is why I am in the USA. Of course, I want to change my life. It is hard be yourself in my country. Some people do, but it takes a lot courage, I am afraid, I don't have it enough. One day at my school arrived a new very pretty girl for working as a teacher. And... I fall in love with her. So strange, I know. A lot of people need more time for it. Maybe it is my illusion, but what I can say exactly that I am totally addicted by her. She is young and smart person. She is only 23. OK. One day I decided asked out her just to drink coffee together. I wrote her short messages on Facebook where I said that I liked our lessons and she was interesting person for me, what if we would drink coffee together. She responded that it was a great idea. I treated her iced tea and we spent about two hour talking about each others. She said that she was alone. She split apart with her boyfriend and she couldn't find new one more than one year, because she tried all possible dating services, but nothing serious. I asked her opinion about gay people. She answered that she had friends and her aunt also lesbian who had been lived with woman for a long time. It was OK for her. Four day after our meeting I wrote her message on Facebook: "Hey Amy! I hope you are having a greet day! Do you know what I thought after we had a cup of tea together? I couldn't recall anyone who makes me feel more comfortable and joyful than you do! I think you never had relationships with women. But I am positive to propose you this exciting experience. What I am looking for is not one night stand, but a sincere friend of mine, which I believe that you are the best match for. You are so gorgeous and smart! I dream to court you. What do you think about it?" She answered me: "Hey! I had a nice time on Thursday with you too! It was great hearing about your home, interests, and plans in New York City. I'm so flattered by your proposal, but you're right, I have never had a relationship with a woman, and to be honest I only date men. You're so brave for pursuing this though, and I respect you a lot for it!! I think you're a really great person and love having you as my student! Your ambition, positivity, and energy are always appreciated. See you in class tomorrow" And my question is: should I forget about this girl? I don't have really good experience with women. I will be happy if girls/women who has more experience tell me your opinions about my situation. Should I try something else or it would be better don't do anything? Thanks a lot in advance!
From what she wrote it sounds as if she is straight and only dates men, and as hard as it may be I think the best thing to do is to just let it be. She does sound like she is very supporting of LGBT people, and I believe she would make a great friend though. You are in New York City which is a very gay friendly place so it should not too hard to find other girls who are interested in women. I wish you the best of luck.
Agree wholeheartedly with the above poster. I'd definitely continue your friendship with her though, she sounds like she could be a great friend! I don't have the greatest track record with women myself, but just continue being yourself and socialising, and I'm sure you'll meet someone else who would love to date you. Good luck!
