My best friend and I have been best friends for 8 years now. We've always been extremely close and she was one of the first people I came out to. We met at this summer camp that we both still go to. Lately, she's been hanging out with people I can't stand :bang:. The kind of people that really don't seem to care about anything and are always on their phones or talking about a video game and, honestly, it annoys me :tantrum:. But what annoys me the most is that, for most of our friendship, we've stayed together no matter what. I recently told her about my crush on her and she said we'd always be best friends, no matter what. But now, she seems to be ignoring me to hang out with these other people. In the summer camp, she'll be talking with her other friends while I'm sitting down, ignoring other people. Every couple of hours, she'll come to tap me on the head or tweak my nose (she's touchy, it's all friendly), then, leave like nothing happened :icon_sad:. I think I'm over the crush thing, but I still want to hang out with her and it feels like she doesn't. I try to hang out with her friends to feel included and hang out with her, but I just can't. They're the type of people I would completely avoid, not start hanging out with :bang:. I don't have any other close friends at this summer camp, so I can't really go hang out with someone else. My friend doesn't know that I feel this way because she would say that we will always be friends and she'll never leave me, but I don't think anything will change anyway. I don't know what to do, what to say .
Oh dear, another friend is lost to those kind of people. I guess you could be honest with her - that's the quickest way to deal with the situation. Maybe you're becoming different people. It happens and it's painful, and sometimes even best friends can be lost... But she hasn't cut you off completely, she's just hanging with a group now. Is she more generally sociable with groups and are you more one-on-one, personal in socialising? Perhaps if you understood what might be causing her to go with this group you could better understand how to keep that bind between you because, ultimately, you don't want to lose a friend.
That's tough and I'm sorry you have to go through that. I've been going through a similar thing because my best friend and I have been going to different schools. We've always still managed to stay close despite this, but we've become different because of the people we hang out with. But I've learned to accept that maybe she hangs out with her other friends more, but when we're together alone we still have a great time just like always. Try getting your friend alone if you can. I know this probably isn't easy in your situation. Maybe if you get a chance to talk to her you could say something like "Hey do you want to hang out later, like just me and you. We haven't been doing that much and I'd like to hang out with you." In the meantime, is there anyone else you're acquainted with? You could try becoming closer to them by asking if you could eat lunch with them or something. Just so you can have something else to do so you don't have to feel like you're always waiting for your friend to come around. Also, the fact that she goes and touches your nose and stuff from time to time might mean she wants you to hang out with her and maybe she isn't completely avoiding you. Maybe she just enjoys spending time with those friends for whatever reason and wishes you guys could all hang out together, which is why she keeps going over to see you. If you don't like hanging out with her friends, then obviously don't hang out with them. But from what you said it doesn't seem like she's trying to avoid hanging out with you. I hope this helps and good luck!
These things happen I'm afraid, the same has happened to me and I saw it with my sister. People like different things, so when something new comes along they absorb themselves in it, when they emerge from it that's where the difference is. Either both of you just drift apart or you realise how precious your friendship is, the important part is that it has to go both ways; just one person wanting it to work isn't enough.
I think the reason she hangs out with people like that is because she likes people like that. She seems to enjoy hanging out with them. I also hate to hurt her because she would never do anything to hurt me. I DO like one-on-one socializing over hanging out in a group, but she doesn't. I just feel jealous because she doesn't really talk to me much anymore, but I don't want to be selfish and keep her all to myself. The problem is I don't have any other friends at the camp, so I don't know what to do. I forgot to mention, even when I sleep over at her house or when she sleeps over at my house, we end up not talking much. We'll either watch something like a movie or a TV show, or we each go and do our own thing.
