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I feel unattractive to girls

Discussion in 'Family, Friends, and Relationships' started by sporn, Aug 14, 2015.

  1. sporn

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    I know I'm attractive to straight men. While I find it flattering when straight guys respectfully compliment me; I'm not too worried about whether they find me attractive. I'm just worried about whether queer girls find me attractive. I've never really spent time around queer girls, but I still constantly worry about them finding me attractive. I often have horrible daydreams about going to a queer event and everyone thinking I'm some underage bicurious girl.
     
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    In the same sense that straight guys find you attractive, a queer girl will find you just as attractive. You've got nothing to worry about!
     
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    I'm not sure if it's in the same sense, but I am sure many of us queer girls would though, but we do like some different things compared to men.
     
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    I do agree with Ariseta, everybody is different some guys will find you unappealing others gorgeous and same thing with girls, different girls like different things and it has nothing to do with us being queer or not.

    I like feminine girls but I know some who like androgynous or more masculine women. We probably wouldn't find the same women attractive even though we are all queer but no doubt that at least one of us would find you attractive. :slight_smile:

    Don't doubt yourself so much, confidence plays a lot when it comes to attraction.
     
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    From my experience, guys will talk to girls/ buy them drinks ect.
    Some queer girls are jst as upfront, while others are more subtle.
    Sometimes you need to make eye contact with a girl and see if it lingers...

    I'm no expert at this, but these are just from my own experiences.
     
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    lol I walk right up and tell them usually.
     
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    Sporn, I feel the same way you do. It's generally easier for me to garner a man's attention, but I don't necessarily think other women find me attractive on that level. However, I'd have to agree with Linning, it more than likely just has to do with what an individual is attracted to and the type of person they are. Some people are more reserved than others. I guess it's a little different for women, because we've generally been socialized to be pursued, so unless you're someone who does not confine yourself to that, it will be a bit more difficult.
     
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    To add to my former post I think guys are more pro-active in their flirts with girls so are easy to spot while women are much more subtles therefore harder to discover.

    It also depends on the type of women you are into, if you are into feminine girls like me it adds to the difficulty of differentiating them from conventional straight women and therefore makes it easier to interpret their flirting for normal friendship, girls ' teasing and else.

    I am a feminine girl going for feminine girls so if I happen to flirt with a girl chances are that most people will see it as pure platonic friendship, so yeah.
     
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    That's why I try to be obvious though, because even if the other girl is receptive they do look at me wondering if I'm just being sweet to them or if I'm actually attracted to them.
     
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    I think its harder to spot if another girl is flirting because being queer isn't something that's super casual, we have to be careful sometimes because maybe they're still in the closet? or we're all just heteronormative and assume that the girls are just complimenting us rather than flirting. Guys on the other hand have nothing to hide/lose by flirting with a girl.