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What's your Preference?

Discussion in 'Family, Friends, and Relationships' started by nate16, Aug 25, 2015.

  1. nate16

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    I've always been curious about what people's preferences are, and what there thoughts are considering polyamory/open relationships and monogamy? If you're so moved to share, please do! What works for you?


    I myself prefer monogamy (sexual and romantic), however if my partner really wants to explore open relationships, I might either consider trying a menage a tois situation or just leave the picture.
     
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    I personally don't care what type of relationship I could potentially have. Weather I fall in love with one or more people doesn't matter to me. As long as you and the others in the relationship are comfortable, it's fine. (*hug*)
     
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    I am strictly monogamous. Even if my partner ever wanted to have an open relationship, I don't think I'll be able to have one.

    Polyamory/open relationships might work for some people, but I'm not one of them.
     
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    I prefer monogamy. I can be a jealous person (I'm working on that) and I don't know if I could handle dating someone who wouldn't be happy being exclusive. My girlfriend is the same way.
     
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    Personally, I prefer monogamy for myself. Handling even one healthy relationship is pretty hard, more than that..? I wouldn't be able to handle it. If my future partner wanted to explore it, I don't think I would stay, because I would want to be my partners only Romantic/sexual relationship. I don't judge other if they are polyamorous but it isn't for me and it'd be a deal breaker in a relationship.
     
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    I prefer monogamy, though it really depends on how close are as a couple. If everything else is going great and we get along really well, I could probably pass on the sexual stuff.
     
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    I've been in a monogamous before and am currently in a poly relationship and I haven't decided yet which I like better, because they're both pretty enjoyable honestly. I never used to think polyamory was something I'd be open to, but it just feels really right and simple now that I'm doing it.
     
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    I'm open to polyamory.
     
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    I've only experienced monogamous relationships, but I'd be willing to try an open relationship or polyamory. Exclusivity is not that important to me, because I believe (some) people can love more than one person.

    Personally, I doubt I'd be willing to have more than one serious romantic partner, because I love my alone time. But if my partner wanted to date or sleep with other people, I'd give them the go-ahead. Maybe it would work, maybe it wouldn't, but I'd be willing to try.
     
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    I find monogamy with open sexual activity to work well for me. Polyamory is extremely difficult to do well -- I've been in several relationships (FFF and FFM) that didn't work -- often because the third person wanted monogamy.

    Between a job and the rest of real life, I find it easier to give one partner my full emotional and time attention. Having sex with other people is fine -- not something I do all the time, but who I have sex with doesn't define the commitment to my primary partner.
     
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    Monogamy. I've never really had feelings for two people at the same time and I honestly don't think I could handle being in an open relationship.
     
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    Monogamy only, for me.

    If you want anything other than monogamy, I think you need to be very honest with each other from the outset and absolutely agree how it will work. I think it's very hard to move the goal posts once a relationship is well established.
     
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    I prefer monogamy but I think it would depend on circumstances. If I wasn't in a very serious relationship I think I could handle a polygamous relationship as well. It would really depend on the person/people and what's going on with me in life. I'd rather be in a polygamous relationship than NO relationship if I really liked the person/people.
     
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    Currently I am only interested in monogamy. I don't think I could handle an intimate polygamous relationship. However, I am open to trying it.
     
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    Ah, sorry to follow the crowd but I'm monogamous too! There's more than one way to have happy relationships though :slight_smile: everyone should do what works for them.
     
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    Monogamy, I want loyalty and companionship.
     
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    Monogamy: I'm not very good with communication (needed in polyamory) I feel like I would be too clingy and kinda jealous for polyamory~
     
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    I prefer monogamy, not because I have anything against polyamorous people, it's just that I am an extremely jealous person and both me and the other person would be miserable and it just wouldn't be healthy for either of us. If I wasn't so jealous I honestly believe I would be into polyamory but that's just not who I am.
     
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    I've never been in a polyamorous relationship but it seems less stressful than monogamy. I definitely want to try it sometime
     
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    Depends on my partner I suppose, I tried the open relationship thing once and it wasn't my thing. I definitely prefer to be in a monogamous relationship.