I'm 16 and still in secondary school. Somewhat good grades. I have really low self-esteem though. Mother says she's had enough of my bull shit, but honestly I have had enough of her. She's racist, sexist, and homophobic. I've been physically abused as a kid, but that has stopped since I've grown after puberty. I've been mentally abused ever since. I've never felt like I had a father. So in case mother actually follows through with her plan to abandon me, can anyone give me tips on how to survive in the world?
It pains me to say this, but fuck her (not literally XD)! I know you may be going through a lot right now, but just keep pushing now matter what. And if you can find a person to stay with, go ahead
Your 16 if she disowns you, you could tell the authorities they will be able to put you in a house and even jail her but she mighn't and probobly wont fall through on it
Hmm thanks guys. Mother's calmed down and asked if we want to make up now. This has happened countless times before. She gets mad, calls me profanities, storms off in a huff, and then tries to make me apologize to her. I feel disgusted. Guess I'll just have to endure this cycle until I can move out and financially support myself.
Canada has pretty good social services and child protection. What you're describing almost certainly falls into the realm of psychological abuse. I would suggest talking to a school counselor and explaining what's going on. The counselor should be willing to contact Child Protective Services on your behalf. They can intervene and get your mother into counseling (if she's willing) or get you into a safer and healthier environment (if she's not.) One of our board members is a clinical social worker from rural Canada who had a very similar situation to yours when he was 16. He spent his last 3 years of high school living in a wonderful group home with caring people to help and support him. That's part of the reason he's now a social worker. So the help and resources are there... you don't have to simply put up with this for 2 more years.
Also, I don't know if you're in the same city as them but Qmunity.ca might be able to help or put you in touch with someone who can. Even to help you while you're still at home.
Thanks guys, I will keep this in mind for when things get worse. It means a lot to me that you guys took your time to read and reply to my problems. I still just need to get over my feelings towards my mother. No matter how hurt I feel, I just cannot imagine putting my mother in pain. It might be easier since I've closed myself off from her ages ago. But perhaps the bitch won't even cry when I leave...I just don't know anymore.
