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Need advice!!!

Discussion in 'Family, Friends, and Relationships' started by CharlieChaplin, Sep 30, 2015.

  1. CharlieChaplin

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    Hello All!

    Well, this is my first time joining a discussion site, let alone a discussion site aimed for LGBT. I really hope this is a reliable one and drama free. I had question and I really didn't want to just use my Facebook as usual for advice, seeing as that would out me entirely.
    So here's the deal. I have recently identified/decided that I am bi-curious. The reason I decided was because for sooo many years, I thought I was bi-sexual, than I thought I was heterosexual. I have never been against anything or anyone related to LGBT because, as long as its not hurting yourself or other people how bad can it be? Not at all. Furthermore, it is their life. All it is, is love.
    My apologies for this being so long, so I am going to try and get to the point now. For years, I have had sexual dreams that I was a man and I was having sex with a woman. Not just any woman either. They would be strangers and it would always be as if I were violating them. I could never tell anyone and I apologize now even, if that just sounds so wrong or strange because truth be told, I would never hurt another woman. In fact, i'd like to do the opposite and caress them rather.
    Once I accepted myself as being bi-curious and telling a couple of trusting and rather understanding friends, the dreams stopped. So here is where I am at. I am ready to pursue these wishes of mine. The thing is I am a rookie. I do not know how to approach an attractive woman without the fear of coming off as weird or butch. I am not butch at all. I'd really like to successfully approach a woman that I know is into other women as well and be able to at some point, openly and comfortable discuss our likes and dislikes and desires. I need advice from anyone who's been there, or even another woman in my shoes or from a woman who has been approached by another and how it worked for them. Thanks guys!
     
  2. PatrickUK

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    I'm pleased you have been able to share your feelings about all of this with us. It may have felt daunting, but you explained yourself well.

    If you have any LGBT social groups nearby, it might be a good idea to see about connecting with them and meeting other people who attend for support and friendship. Failing that, you could use the internet. Have a look at websites that are more aligned to friendship or interests and meeting people for conversation, rather than hook ups and relationships.

    Don't worry about coming off as weird or butch. You will find that many Lesbian women appreciate the fine and feminine things in life too. :slight_smile: