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Anxiety Is Making All Of This So Much More Difficult

Discussion in 'Family, Friends, and Relationships' started by eofox, Oct 4, 2015.

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  1. eofox

    eofox
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    So about three weeks ago I met this girl at a festival who I kind of hit it off with. For about two weeks we just kind of talked and kind of became decent friends. When I originally met her I had asked if she was straight which she replied to as "yes." I've been on hormones for about 4 and a half months now (mtf) and would probably say I look kind of femme andro more than masc. (I identify as female but my entire gender expression is very much kind of a feminine androgyny... which makes no sense, but whatever.)

    Anyway, over the last week I kind of started to flirt with her and ended up developing a crush that I already had on her by even more. It got to the point where I had to ask her if there was a chance of a romantic relationship (my flirting had become... unnecessary). She said that she'd never had any feelings for a girl before, but had developed feelings (highly based on emotion and personality) for me and that she was willing to try.

    It has only been a few days since she told me, and I know that I can often do things too fast (my brain just never stops). I'm trying it out, but I don't know how to take it slow. I've never been close to much less in a relationship before. I don't want to ruin it by freaking her out or anything... the anxiety about this whole situation and that I could very well mess it up by doing things too quickly is freaking me out. Any advice would be so helpful. :eusa_doh:
     
    #1 eofox, Oct 4, 2015
  2. Fentrion

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    Based on what you've written, she may find you interesting but I don't think she is attracted to you.

    Regardless of that, maybe you can just do what seems natural and don't worry about minutiae. There is not a "right" way of handling about such situations. Whether she likes you or not, you are a complete person on your own.

    I used to be anxious about a girl myself, and only because she was the first person I really flirted with. Even though I was cool and detached at the beginning, she lost interest as I became more neurotic and "emotional". I'm glad it never went anywhere though, since I've come to believe that guys are easier to love.
     
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