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Love my Boyfriend, but my crush is still crushing me

Discussion in 'Family, Friends, and Relationships' started by Incredibull, Oct 6, 2015.

  1. Incredibull

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    Hello EC, I had a crush on a guy fo a while, six months ago. I came out to him and we almost had sex. He was the first guy I experimented with. Anyway, he left and now I have a boyfriend. I see my crush constantly at school and it is frighteningly awkward and I get butter flies when i see him. What do I do. I am lusting after him hard but I know we can never be anything just a one time hit and quit it deal. I also love my boyfriend as the person he is, but physically losing my attraction to him. What do I do? How do I resolve these feeling? Every time I see my crush i loose focus for hours and it negatively impacting a lot in my life. Any advice appreciated or similar experiences.
     
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    I've had a very similar experience. The first guy that I experimented with also brought back these feelings, and stressed me out a lot. He drove a Kia Soul and the sight of a random one could bring back the feelings.

    I cut of communication with him which has allowed me to move on. Telling myself that it would not work with him (and with time), allowed me to finally accept it.
     
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    Why did he leave? Why does your boyfriend stay? It could be you're going through a mentally stressful time, and hooking up is a way of [temporarily] escaping from those worries. Stopping communication is a good step, and you should follow that with working on improving yourself and finding ways of making happiness within than chasing it from external factors.
     
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    He left for the summer back home, while I stayed here and found my boyfriend. But, this is good advice, I need to focus on growth. It's just so hard seeing his perfect skin all over the place and that smile! Jeez, I know we are not the slight bit compatible but the lust is strong. Okay, phew, I'll focus on academics and see where it leads me.
     
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    Should I tell my Boyfriend about this? Or keep it quiet so I don't hurt him?