I asked out a girl a couple days ago we've already gone to a football game together and I'm going to her Halloween party on Saturday. We've been together for about two weeks now but never even held hands or anything I don't know if she feels the same way about me or what she says we're dateing and calls me her "boyfriend" dose anyone have any advice
Maybe you should ask her why she keeps calling you that. Ask her if she's straight. Maybe she's just confused and likes you as a guy. But I think if you love someone enough, you can be open-minded.
She's straight and I don't mind her calling me her boyfriend and if she likes me as a guy that's fine being trans isn't my life I'd like to focas on my relationship not gender identification
Two weeks?! I'd say you don't need to do anything special or declare anything for now. You're still getting to know each other.
So being with her is more important than your gender? That's a first! Well, if that's how you feel, then I hope it works out. But it doesn't bother you? Also, try grabbing her hand. She may be waiting for you to make the move.
Living your life for someone else, more than for yourself, that just seems like a recipe for disaster. Been there, done that. And at one point or another those issues are gonna resurface. You can beat them back for a while, but that's about it.
Hi bassboss. Glad you found someone who seems accepting even if you are both trying to figure out how to navigate this. A new girlfriend is exciting and emotions tend to run hot. But angeluscrzy is right that suppressing yourself only works for so long. Also sacrificing or denying your own love and care is a recipe for disaster. It will result in an unhappy unhealthy relationship. Someone who doesn't love/care for themselves is unable to love and care for others. If I were with someone who told me they loved me more than themselves it would be a huge red flag. Just want you to be healthy and happy.
I just feel like if I care for other people more than myself I could maby fill the gap in my soul that has been emptyed by my insults to myself. I find it as a problem some times but other times it's like an addiction like I treat my self bad for the same reason a bully bullies a victim. Because of their imperfections. And now it's like second nature. A lot of people think I'm a happy nice person but really I'm trying to hide the fact that I'm dieing inside
It has taken me a long time to finally realize that what I want matters. You can't go through your life trying to have others fill this hole inside yourself. It is an unreal expectation and as you're trying to please everyone else, your own spirit starts to die. I understand completely how you feel about dying on the inside. I spent my young childhood going to bed every night praying I would just pass away in my sleep. Unable to deal with the things inside, and busting ass to create this image of what I felt everyone else wanted me to be. It led to years and years of depression and self-harm, suicide attempts and hospitalizations. Living that way, you're never "living", you're just existing.
