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Discussion in 'Family, Friends, and Relationships' started by Ihavetojustbeme, Nov 10, 2015.

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  1. Ihavetojustbeme

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    lost my account and I kind of remember that I used this certain thread to talk about my girlfriend Kati and I believe it had something to do with the fact that we don't talk much anymore. Most of my friends and I do believe that the way she happens to be talking is headed towards a possible breakup. I don't want that. She doesn't have international calling and I don't have Skype. What should I do to improve the relationship or should I end it? :help: :bang: :tears: :tantrum::eek::tears:
     
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    I think it would be best to end it. It will feel better if you're the one to do it. If you wait for her to do it, it'll hurt so much more. I know from experience.
     
    #2 Anthemic, Nov 10, 2015
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    what should i say?
     
    #3 Ihavetojustbeme, Nov 11, 2015
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    Well, if it were me, I'd say, "I love you, but we barely ever talk. I feel like I'm being used and I feel like there's not enough effort being put into this relationship. We can still be friends. But I can't continue to put my heart into something that is going nowhere."
     
    #4 Anthemic, Nov 11, 2015
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    :eusa_clap(&&&)(*hug*)
     
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    Anything new?
     
    #6 Anthemic, Nov 12, 2015
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    i almost called it off but then i got to chicken:help:
     
    #7 Ihavetojustbeme, Nov 13, 2015
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    What are you worried will happen?
     
    #8 Anthemic, Nov 13, 2015
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    im not sure i just dont want to end it i will be really depressed if i do:tears:
     
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    I know. It's hard. But your relationship is going nowhere. You need to talk to her and discuss this issue.
     
    #10 Anthemic, Nov 14, 2015
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    I'm sorry you're having to go through this. It's definitely rough, but I believe Anthemic is right. Prolonging this is only going to make the sorrow longer. It won't just be good for you, but it'll be good for her. You will both be able to move on and be happy.
     
    #11 Steve FS, Nov 14, 2015
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    to make things worse she has an account here!!!!!:bang::bang::bang::bang::bang:
     
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    Oh wow... O_O
     
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    what do i do????????:bang::bang::bang::bang::help::help: :help::help::help::help::tears: :***: :***: :***:
     
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    I already told you what to do. This relationship is going nowhere. It would be different if she texted you a lot more. But it seems that she only texts when she feels like it, which isn't love.
     
    #15 Anthemic, Nov 16, 2015
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    it isnt?? :eusa_doh::***::bang::icon_sad::icon_sad:
     
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    No. When someone loves you, they'll try to talk to you every chance they get when it's long distance. Texting when she feels like it isn't love. Love is a priority.
     
    #17 Anthemic, Nov 16, 2015
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    she does but it just feels rare
     
    #18 Ihavetojustbeme, Nov 17, 2015
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    "Rare" meaning "when she wants to". People who love someone want to talk to them a lot more than every few days. Wouldn't you talk to her more if you had the choice?
     
    #19 Anthemic, Nov 17, 2015
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    of course i would. although we talk more than we used to than like 2 weeks ago. we talk almost every single day. and on a good day we talk all day pretty much.
     
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