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Accuracy Of Instincts?

Discussion in 'Family, Friends, and Relationships' started by Contact1111, Nov 25, 2015.

  1. Contact1111

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    I have a question that maybe doesn't even belong on this site, since it isn't exactly related to sexuality specifically. It's more of a broader point about the validity of trusting one's instincts about people. To be honest, since I was a teenager and beyond, I got very bad vibes from my family. A couple times they lost their cool and said some mean and scary sounding things, but despite an overall positive track record of behavior I just didn't trust them at all when it came to something of significance like this. Honestly, I felt quite scared of them in general, and we didn't really get along well. I felt that they were certainly going to pose a very serious problem in my life, should I ever decide to opt for disclosure on my sexuality. I was almost certain that they would withdraw financial support and probably even avoid contact, at least for the most part. However, when I actually did disclose, things did not really go too bad at all. It was actually a neutral to possibly even ultimately somewhat supportive reaction. It has been this way with a lot of other things that have come up in recent years, and despite having made it into adulthood, the things I would've expected to happen didn't. Obviously, I am glad about this. However, part of me just wonders how such a strong instinct could possibly be wrong? I'm obviously very glad, but it makes me kind of doubt my gut instincts a bit. After I've described things to my therapist, he seemed to think that my feelings that I've had about my family has also been off base. I kind of wonder now how and when to really trust my instincts on things? I kind of wonder if I've been wrong about some things with other people, as well. Maybe some of the feelings and impressions I have gotten about friends and other people that I've encountered have been wrong, as well sometimes? It's kind of confusing when you have such a powerful feeling that ends up getting proven wrong. Obviously, in this case it was a good thing, but it has really made me question the way I look at the world in general.
     
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