How to get over someone not worth your love?

Time heals all. (At least, this is what I tell myself).

I am in a similar situation as you. In fact, the guy you speak of sounds oddly like the guy I'm trying to get over as well.

The fact that you feel relieved over having realized his shortcomings do not mesh with your expectations is a blessing in disguise. This enables you the ability to get over him. It's difficult, though. Thankfully, memories are just that. The past, which we may reflect on and cherish, are days gone by and will never come to be. So you are safe to move on without repercussion, because if those memories are precious to you, they will remain as such, and the longing you feel can and will be replaced by the love of another.

Patience and perseverance prevails all.

 

I agree. It will take a little bit of time, but it will pass.

 

Here's what you do:

You stop trying to escape the pain and face it instead, in all its horrible agony. You learn how to love yourself and take the necessary steps. It won't stop the hurt. It will help you get through it and you'll emerge stronger on the other side.

 

I had a couple of fun nights with a girl this past winter. I knew she wasn't in it for more than to have fun a couple of times, but I still had a really hard time getting over it. Especially when she got back together with her ex boyfriend.

Surprisingly, I got over her after a little while. I wanted her for quite a while but things eventually shifted and now we're friends and nothing more but it works for us.

I'm just now dealing with a guy I was with for a short amount of time who didn't tell me he had a fiance and I found out recently. I hate it because I really liked the guy and obviously nothing more is going to happen between us. I'm mad at him for making me feel this way and for betraying his girlfriend like that.

I keep telling myself I'll be okay in a few months. You will be, too!

 

I agree with all of the above, it'll pass with time whether you want it or not, even if at the moment it might feel like that's impossible. What's really important & what will make the process quicker is that you learn to stop spending time on him in any way you might in your daily life, which includes checking his social media sites if you do, and also includes thinking about him in any way. I'm not telling you to force yourself to think about something else as soon as he comes up, I'm just saying if you find yourself still daydreaming about him from time to time you should gently tell yourself that you're wasting your time. Otherwise it'll just take longer because he'll still be in your thoughts slowing you down.