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I want to break up with my boyfriend

Discussion in 'Family, Friends, and Relationships' started by RavenTheRat, Dec 8, 2015.

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  1. RavenTheRat

    RavenTheRat
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    Hi guys
    So I just..........*sigh*

    There are just too many problems. At least for me......

    I'm not good for him or to him. My anxiety has increased threefold since I first got into a relationship, and I snap all the time now. Plus... I don't feel like he understands my gender orientation. He treats me like a girl, and I tried to overlook it but I can't. I'm just.... not happy. I was so desperate to be IN a relationship that I tried to convince myself I was happy. But......
    I don't want to do this any more. In all honesty, the only reason I haven't broken up with him yet is... he told me that when his last girlfriend broke up with him... I don't know. The way he said it, it made him sound like he became suicidal. I can't...... I can't have another person I need to be afraid for. I already have too many people I could lose every day to their own hand.

    And he..... he says that he hates his family, and that the only person he cares about is me. I just.... I'm afraid for him, what will happen to him, if I break up with him. But I can't do this. I'm miserable. It's just not the kind of relationship I want.

    But I feel like a total and complete asshole. I...... I don't know. I've told him I loved him, and I think that I did. But I don't anymore at least.

    This entire thing is because I'm afraid of what it will do to him if we break up. And... I'm a coward. If I do break up with him, I'll probably be that asshole who breaks up over text, because I'm concerned about what I might do to MYSELF if I see how much I hurt him. I made my mom a little sad once and I ripped my hair out.
    I'm running away. But I want to hide. I wish I could just go back and unhappen all of this.
    I've never done this before, I have no idea what I'm doing.

    Help?
     
    #1 RavenTheRat, Dec 8, 2015
  2. robclem21

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    Sometimes you need to take care of yourself first and foremost. If you are not happy, then it is not healthy to stay in a relationship. I know it will be hard in the immediate future, but trust me when I say that it will get better, he will be alright (people are surprisingly resilient) and you will both move on and find people you can be happy with.

    Staying in a relationship like this could only spiral worse and will only get harder to leave the longer you wait. feeling trapped is a horrible feeling but you need to do whats best for you.
     
    #2 robclem21, Dec 9, 2015
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