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Is it stupid to fake it?

Discussion in 'Family, Friends, and Relationships' started by questions4ever, Dec 8, 2015.

  1. questions4ever

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    Seriously considering faking an interest in a guy just to get my family off my back ...

    I'm kind of freaking out right now my sister just asked me whether I'm lesbian or bi my mom suspects I am because of a book I checked out from the library and a comment my brother made - I thought I was almost ready to come out but I don't think I am. I denied it but she doesn't believe me honestly considering pretending to be interested in a guy
     
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    Well, since you helped me I 'm gonna help you back. The Adobe I can give you is, I think it depends of the type of guy..is he open-minded about LGBT and other stuff? If yes then maybe you can date him for a while and come out through him...is your family open-minded as well? Also,about the book and the comment, I don't think you should care what anyone thinks about the books you read. You're and adult, come on. Don't take stuff like that personally! I used to be so afraid to be caught reading the history,philosophy, and Shakespeare section of my school library as kid, because I was afraid people would call me a "nerd" or "loner". Nobody does anymore, mabye behind my back, but I don't care. And they probably feel guilty since they see that I don't pay attention to their comments much, meaning I probably don't care. So yeah, that my personal experience with that, LOL.
     
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    I think if you feel you need to do that so you don't have to come out yet then you should, because if you don't feel ready to that's important.
    Just don't do anything that would become too much of a lie. Maybe avoid a guy you know/would likely be able to date so you don't have to fake that too. You don't want to get into a relationship like that unless you're completely honest with the other person about it. Another option could be to say "ooh he's cute" about guys you see out and about or something, just don't get yourself into too much of a lie just because that would make more stress for yourself which you don't need<3
     
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    Do what I do- fake swoon over male celebrities. :slight_smile: