Hi everyone.I'm new to online support groups/forums but am looking for others like me. I identify as a lesbian but I'm married to a transman. When we started dating and for the first few years of our relationship my husband identified as a lesbian and was biologically female. He came out to me halfway through wedding planning and about three years into our relationship. I decided we could make it work and I love him regardless. He started hormones right around the time we got married. It has been 11 months since he started testosterone now and I do his shots for him. He had also had top surgery so far and is talking about bottom surgery. I am struggling with all of th e changes and my own identity through all of this. I have been feeling more depressed and is am worried about how bottom surgery might affect our relationship. I feel like I have lost a part of my identity as a lesbian woman and am struggling with intimacy...can anyone relate? I would like to find some new friends and people to talk to about these challenges who understand which I don't really have now.