1. This site uses cookies. By continuing to use this site, you are agreeing to our use of cookies. Learn More.

Gay guys; did you ever crush on a straight guy?

Discussion in 'Family, Friends, and Relationships' started by ANerdWhoCares, Dec 11, 2015.

?

Gay Guys: did you ever crush on a "straight" guy?

  1. Yes, and it went well. (Got together, friend came out, or something else LGBT related.)

    3 vote(s)
    4.9%
  2. Yes, and it went well. (Just stayed friends)

    22 vote(s)
    36.1%
  3. Yes, but it went badly... (not friends anymore/never were, or just never acted on it.)

    20 vote(s)
    32.8%
  4. No, never have.

    4 vote(s)
    6.6%
  5. ...It's complicated. (If you pick this one, please elaborate in the thread!)

    14 vote(s)
    23.0%
Multiple votes are allowed.
  1. ANerdWhoCares

    Regular Member

    Joined:
    Nov 15, 2015
    Messages:
    97
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Connecticut
    Gender:
    Male
    Just a question for fun, since I've crushed on 3 straight guys (and counting :frowning2:), all of them ending in no result. All 3 of them had something about them that made me feel like they might fell the same way towards me someday, but reality always slapped me in the face later. :bang: Here they are;
    (for ease of context, I'm using real first names, but nothing else)

    1. Josh. Short, blonde, kind of chubby. Really sweet, but now, a few years later, he's a rich punk. One time, I walked in on him half-naked, and rather than panic, he sort of just stood there. :wink:

    2. Kyle. Amazon-level tall, brunette athlete. He said once to me that if he were to have a brother, he wished that it was me. (Awww... *vomits*) He always said he prefers girls, and denied the fact that gay guys even existed at our school for years, but his only "dedicated" relationship for the past 3 years has been with a girl he's broken up with 4 (or more) times already, and I definitley saw him checking out some guys in the locker room a few years back. :roflmao:

    3. Jake. Average height, black-brown hair, slightly geeky athlete. Growing up, he was always kind of "up close and personal" with boys, and flirted with a few, from I can remember. Never had a girlfriend, and still doesn't, to my knowledge. Two months back, he showed very homophobic viewpoints towards gays, and a huge lack of compassion towards people stuck in the closet. :tantrum:

    Were they all lost causes? Maybe so. But I'm over it, so whatevs. (!)
     
  2. Jax12

    Full Member

    Joined:
    Sep 28, 2014
    Messages:
    1,875
    Likes Received:
    71
    Location:
    Canada
    Gender:
    Male
    Gender Pronoun:
    He
    Sexual Orientation:
    Gay
    Out Status:
    Out to everyone
    Nope, never. I definitely found them attractive and fantasized about some of them, but the very fact that they were straight basically told my mind that it's not going to happen.
     
  3. Steve FS

    Regular Member

    Joined:
    Oct 19, 2015
    Messages:
    64
    Likes Received:
    19
    Location:
    Washington State
    Gender:
    Male
    Sexual Orientation:
    Gay
    Out Status:
    All but family
    I'm the same as Jax. I don't think I've ever crushed on a straight guy, although I do find them attractive. I did start to develop feelings for this cute soccer player in high school who seemed gay, but he wasn't. At least I don't think so...

    *starts to creep on Facebook*
     
  4. MrSkittles

    Regular Member

    Joined:
    Jan 4, 2015
    Messages:
    877
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    New York
    waaaay too many times.
     
  5. iamdesperate

    Regular Member

    Joined:
    Aug 18, 2015
    Messages:
    35
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Turkey (won't tell the city tho)
    Gender:
    Male
    Sexual Orientation:
    Gay
    Out Status:
    Not out at all
    Thats the only thing i am proud of myself on my sexuality (i am okay with being gay, just not "proud" of it). I dont develop feelings for straight people but can develop one easily if I ever find out they're gay. Have I fantasized about them? Well, yeah sure some of them are hot, but to develope feelings I have to know if I have a shot or not. Thats why I dont have that. However, some guys that seems gay, or say they're gay/bi even tho theyre just kiddin', may make me confused for a while.
     
  6. Contact1111

    Contact1111 Guest

    Joined:
    Jun 24, 2015
    Messages:
    363
    Likes Received:
    2
    Location:
    New Paltz, NY
    Gender:
    Male
    Sexual Orientation:
    Bisexual
    Out Status:
    A few people
    Well, I'm not fully gay..... I'm bisexual but yep, definitely. There was one of my friends that I really "liked" a lot as more than a friend. I would think about things that I wanted to do with him all the time...... and I still do sometimes even though it's been ages. Then, I have had some other friends that I would think about like that.... not quite as much though...... If they had ever "come out" though, I'm sure I still would've been thrilled about it :slight_smile: We just stayed friends..... and I never said anything about it. I just couldn't really help it though as far as thinking about them and wanting to do those things with them though..... even though I knew they weren't like that. That's pretty much how I figured out I'm not straight.
     
    #6 Contact1111, Dec 12, 2015
    Last edited: Dec 12, 2015
  7. Connorcode

    Connorcode Guest

    Yes. I just looked at his tweets and am feeling rather inadequate at the moment: how can you get so far in so little time?! I thought I had been making good progress on finding and working at a job!

    He's the only 'straight' guy I've ever crushed on and that's because I was sure he was trying to get close to me so we could chat about these kind of things. He seemed like he was questioning at the very least - he flirted heavily enough with me to make me think he was into guys.

    I miss him a bit, but there isn't much time for that right now.
     
    #7 Connorcode, Dec 12, 2015
    Last edited by a moderator: Dec 12, 2015
  8. VideoGAYmer

    VideoGAYmer Guest

    Joined:
    Oct 19, 2015
    Messages:
    27
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    England
    Gender:
    Male
    So my BFF only came out to me about 2 months ago, he say he's bi but to me he say he's gay. Anyway, I may have fallen for him after an "event" that happened not too long ago which lead to.me coming out to him. While we've established that we have 'feelings' for each other, we've decided to wait for a bit (too much going on at school and life in general.
     
  9. animatedPi

    Regular Member

    Joined:
    Dec 1, 2015
    Messages:
    67
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Cape Town, Western Cape, South Africa
    Gender:
    Male
    Gender Pronoun:
    He
    Sexual Orientation:
    Gay
    Out Status:
    Out to everyone
    Yes, I currently have a crush on two or three straight people, they don't know I'm gay yet or that I have a crush on them.
     
  10. mychemromance99

    Full Member

    Joined:
    Oct 7, 2015
    Messages:
    432
    Likes Received:
    14
    Location:
    India
    Gender:
    Genderqueer
    Gender Pronoun:
    They
    Sexual Orientation:
    Other
    Out Status:
    All but family
    Ummm I identified as asexual before fallung for a new friend last year, I just felt protective of him (and to a certain level, still do).
    I told him that I have a crush on him last year, told him that I loved him. He was slightly shocked, but we are friends even now (our friendship has gotten stronger after that lol )
    He keeps telling me to go out with girls and that I should be with girls and yada yada bleh.
     
  11. guitar

    Full Member

    Joined:
    Jan 21, 2015
    Messages:
    2,062
    Likes Received:
    2
    Location:
    Southern Ontario, Canada
    There have been straight guys I've "liked" but never enough to develop really strong feelings toward or make a move. I've always gone after guys I know are bi/gay.
     
  12. lovetoomuch

    Full Member

    Joined:
    Jun 11, 2014
    Messages:
    375
    Likes Received:
    5
    Way too many times. I've had about three serious crushes in the past and they were all for straight guys. When you're in the closet, like I am, I think that is usually who you tend to crush on. The first two crushes lasted a decent amount of time, but I eventually got over them.

    The third crush, which I have explained on here many times, lasted about 2 1/2 years and I fell for him pretty hard. We weren't really close, but I still ended up liking him a lot. I came out to him and he was actually really accepting.
    Telling him my feelings finally helped me to move on because I realized I had no chance.

    Now I'm currently crushing on a gay guy, but he shows no interest (just my luck haha).
    Seriously though, I would try to avoid crushing on straight guys altogether; it usually ends up in heartache and a lot of overthinking.
     
  13. SiennaFire

    Full Member

    Joined:
    May 23, 2015
    Messages:
    2,161
    Likes Received:
    246
    Location:
    Boston
    Gender:
    Male
    Gender Pronoun:
    He
    Sexual Orientation:
    Gay
    Out Status:
    Out to everyone
    I had crushes on straight guys before I came out, but never acted on them. Now that I'm out, I go after gay guys.
     
  14. beastwith2backs

    Joined:
    Nov 28, 2015
    Messages:
    283
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    The 6/ the socialist utopia.
    Gender:
    Male
    Sexual Orientation:
    Gay
    Yes, mostly just teachers at school, so I can't act on it...
     
  15. ANerdWhoCares

    Regular Member

    Joined:
    Nov 15, 2015
    Messages:
    97
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Connecticut
    Gender:
    Male
    If only I had that luxury... :lol: :roflmao:
     
  16. Minx

    Full Member

    Joined:
    Jan 29, 2013
    Messages:
    1,293
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Colorado
    I'm not sure. I had a lot of crushes in middle-school. Which isn't saying much since I crushed on almost every guy I crossed paths with. :lol:

    The more I grew up however the less interested I became once I knew a guy was straight. Up to the point where it's kind of an off switch as soon as I know. :slight_smile:
     
  17. Nordland

    Regular Member

    Joined:
    Dec 13, 2015
    Messages:
    392
    Likes Received:
    17
    Location:
    London
    Gender:
    Male
    Gender Pronoun:
    He
    Sexual Orientation:
    Gay
    Out Status:
    Out to everyone
    Have a crush on a straight guy in my class. All I can say is dayaam he's cute
     
  18. GayOtaku

    Regular Member

    Joined:
    Sep 10, 2015
    Messages:
    25
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Durham
    Gender:
    Male
    I did once.

    A guy called Zac. He was so sweet, a joke type of person, and attractive. Well, to my other friends, they didn't think he was so attractive, until my best friend had a crush on hiim (sigh, and she even knew). I was so flirty with him. Emoji's on every text. Used to laugh at all his jokes, offer him pen/pencils to lessons (I know it's trivial, but it was something). However, after I found a new set of people to hang out with (The group he hanged out with were dirty, vile, and a set of straight boys who made 'yo mama' jokes)

    I remember him once asking 'I think your gay'. Maybe if I told him, it would have changed something, ah well :/

    I just see him in School, and remember having a crush on him. God, he has such a nice ass. Other than that, I'm over him.
     
  19. HeraldofSithis

    Regular Member

    Joined:
    Dec 12, 2015
    Messages:
    20
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    St. Lucia
    Gender:
    Male
    Sexual Orientation:
    Bisexual
    Out Status:
    Not out at all
    I've had a crush on a guy at school. One of them was for a really long time. He told me he wanted me to help him with something because my eyes were beautiful, but I think he was joking (this was after I got over him though).
     
  20. guitar

    Full Member

    Joined:
    Jan 21, 2015
    Messages:
    2,062
    Likes Received:
    2
    Location:
    Southern Ontario, Canada
    Oh, don't get me wrong, there are a lot of straight guys I've thought were hot/cute. Some I even developed some feelings for. But I never got close to that kind of semi-obsession you can get with people you're really into. I limit making the moves to guys I know are into dudes. Otherwise it just makes things weird and can ruin friendships.