Should I do anything about this guy in my class?

For a good 3 months I had a class with someone almost every day of the week. For the first couple of weeks, from the corner of my eye, I would notice someone copying all of my gestures.


I'm the type of person that, when I notice something like that, I'll continue not giving any sort of eye contact at all.

However, a couple of weeks later, we ended up having our seats permanently next to each other. We talk to everyone around us, but never to each other... even though we sit right next to each other. I would never give him eye contact, but I would notice him staring at me or glancing at me from the corner of my eye.

He would also always copy my gestures; if I "sniffled," he'd do it immediately afterwards. If I sighed, he'd sigh immediately afterwards. If I crossed my legs, he would do it immediately afterwards. If I was resting my head on my hands, he would do the same. After a while, in class I would start paying attention to him paying attention to me so much (while never actually giving eye contact) that I would sometimes accidentally copy him too. And I would notice that he noticed, too. If I almost copied him doing something, he would immediately look at me. But I would also notice him doing that far more than me; a lot of times, if, say, I would change my seating position, he would automatically start doing it too, but in the middle of it he'd stop himself.

I've also noticed strange things, too. We've literally only exchanged maybe 5 or so words in-person, and he initiated it twice while I guess I was a tad cold in my response. However, any time our professor in class would make a comment about me or something and the class would laugh, he would laugh, look at me for a couple of seconds, and then look away.

There's also been many times where I have talked to someone in front of him, not acknowledging him at all. I noticed he would almost be on the verge of saying something, but he'd stop himself.

There was even one time in class where our professor made a joke about gay sex. He laughed, glanced at me really quickly, and then looked away.

Anyways, it's just been this really weird tension between us (that no one notices except us), with him copying my gestures and looking at me, me making a point to never look at him but sometimes unintentionally copying him as well, etc. etc. But basically I am under the impression that he is really, really nervous towards me.

This week, I got his number from a classmate. I didn't do anything, really, other than ask him if he's done the study guide. He's one of the top students in the class, so it wasn't anything strange. However, I noticed I would ask him questions and he'd just respond with "ok" "no" etc. He could just be a bad texter, but, idk?

And today was our last day in the class. After the final, a good 10 or so of us stayed after class to discuss things and to do some little extra credit assignment. I tried saying a few words to him and agreeing with him but he wouldn't make eye contact with me at all.

Him and I plus two other people walked out of the class together, and all four of us said bye to each other. Him and I were the last ones to say bye to each other, and when he did, he was reluctant to give a handshake. I tried giving him eye contact but he immediately said "see ya" and then walked away.

Should I bother to do anything at this point? I'm afraid I could seem "weird"... plus the class is already over. I dunno. I hate building up tension only for it to not transform into something positive.

What do you guys think?

 

Like I said, we sat next to each other, but interacted with everyone around us in the class, aside from each other.

I tried texting him a couple of times just for homework last week, but today was our last day of class, hence the saying goodbye, and not being able to hold any eye contact with me.

I feel like it'd be way too awkward to initiate another text, even though in person he's the one putting in all the effort (in a very strange way). We never talked to each other, really. One time he tried butting into a conversation and I just said "oh really?" and that's it, and another time before an exam I tried asking a friend a question and he butt in too and I said "what? I dunno..." and that's pretty much it. I guess I "messed up" big time.

That said, I don't really need confirmation if he's gay or not. We created tension out of nothing I think that says a lot.

 

Well I would be less reluctant if he wasn't cold when I would text him about an assignment... Then again that was the only time I would.

I want to text him, but I don't know what to do. I don't want to try having a regular convo, that's a tad awkward. And what if I just start talking about how we were in class or just bringing things to the forefront? That would overwhelm, maybe he'd deny it, etc.

I just really don't want to embarrass myself.

 

Lol I don't know about "hi there!" but I'll consider something of that nature.

Not sure about it just being idolization. I mean, it could be, but I doubt it. After me asking him for help on HW and being super nice that shouldn't result in him still avoiding eye contact and then when saying goodbye to look down and away instead of giving eye contact back. I keep mentioning that but I think that says A LOT.

 

pls help

 

It's been 6 days since the semester ended. So it hasn't been long at all. Lesson learned.

I want to send something straightforward like that but what if he goes like "what tension? I don't care" etc.

And I also don't know if I'm going to have another class with him. I might, starting the beginning of January. But if I don't, I feel like it'll be too late to apologize or mention tension via text.

 

You didn't read all of it did you lol

 

We had a very brief text convo and he was nice but nothing came of it. And I don't know if I'll ever see him around campus... So basically unless im a little straightforward in some way, I don't see anything happening. Really messed this up