I think my friend has feelings for me

Let me start with some back story. I'm gay. One of my best friends, Steve, identifies as straight. We've been close friends for almost 10 years. We have also been roommates for around 8 months. I came out to Steve and my other roommate right when we all moved in together. I had always thought that my friend Steve was possibly gay or bi for quite some time even though he has shown interest in girls and has had 2 somewhat serious girlfriends in the past. He fits into a fair amount of gay stereotypes that I won't get into, but he also compliments me a lot. He'll randomly tell me how good I look when we're hanging out and how he wishes his body was more like mine. I'll admit that while finally accepting my own sexuality and getting closer to coming out, I had a short lived crush on him. We get along great, have a lot of the same interests, and I find him physically attractive. Despite all those great things, these feelings didn't last very long.

Since moving in with him and coming out to him, I am becoming more and more convinced that he is gay or bi and has feelings for me. He was the 4th or 5th person I came out to. He said everything was cool and it changed nothing, but things were still weird. It was just me and him hanging out the rest of the night and he was very quiet and seemed nervous. I also thought it was weird that he didn't really ask me anything - you know basic stuff like, when did you first know? are you seeing anyone? stuff like that. Very different from other friends/family I told. Maybe that means nothing, or maybe he got hit with some thoughts on his own sexuality? A few weeks later I came out to one of our mutual female friends. I had a long talk with her during a drunken night where Steve was also there. When we came back inside from our talk, the first thing he asks is "did you talk about how I'm gay?". After and before that he'd make similar comments joking about him being gay or. Nobody even really questions him to his face, except apparently some of his coworkers do so that could have something to do with it.

Shortly after moving in, I met my boyfriend. Him and Steve get along fine, but my boyfriend sometimes feels like there is tension between the two of them. When my boyfriend isn't around, Steve will often times make joking comments about how i'm the better looking one in the relationship.

One night Steve was out of town with some other friends and got really drunk. We were texting like we normally do, and then out of nowhere he says "you make me sad all the time". The people who I asked about this all said that they think he's into me. Shortly after this happened, my other roommate told me that he thinks Steve is in love with me.

Alcohol always brings out the most questionable moments in Steve's sexuality if you couldn't already tell. He's known for getting touchy when he drinks, specifically with me. Usually it's just a quick back rub or sitting a little too close to me on the couch. One night he got really drunk with my boyfriend there. My boyfriend was passed out on the couch so it was just us two awake. Steve slapped my ass multiple times and even got down on the floor and started cuddling with my leg as I was sitting on the couch. I kept telling him to stop and he just kept saying "let it happen". The next morning it was pretty obvious he at least slightly remembered what went on. He was acting very nervous and kept asking if he did anything really weird. I told him about the ass spanking but that's it.

This whole situation is pretty stressful. Maybe I could be reading into things, but I'm pretty sure Steve isn't straight and that he has some type of infatuation with me. We're really good friends and roommates, and I don't want any of that to change. At this point it looks like he is far from coming out or confessing any feelings. He's still going on dates with girls (none of which last past 1-2 dates). But every time he drinks I get really uncomfortable. I'm not really sure what I can do or if I should do anything at all.

I apologize for how lengthy this is. Any advice or comments would be greatly appreciated!

 

I guess I don't really have a direct question. I'm just worried about our friendship because there is this uncomfortable situation between us and want to hear some opinions if there's anything I can do or see if anyone has experienced something similar. I could never bring up to him that I think he has feelings for me. There's no way that convo would go well at this point. It is also possible that I subconsciously still have feelings for him, which scares me because I'm in a great relationship.