I need advice, please help. Feeling lost :help:

Hmm, it sounds like he wants to break off the relationship because it's a long distance relationship. You should try to see where your relationship stands at the moment and ask yourself if this is the relationship you want to be involved in. It's also about you, just as its about him. There's a balance. You shouldn't have to make yourself suffer for his happiness and no person deserves that. Not even you. It's not easy to be in a LDR. Consider what you want out of this relationship and if it doesn't match, you should have a talk. You said sometimes it doesn't come to an important point, and that can be a red flag. The decision is ultimately up to you, though I'd say not give him any time, for your sake. If he doesn't want to give himself 100 percent, then there will always be someone else that will.

 

Hello!

Let's dive right in.

Long distance relationships are hard. This is a fact. The relationship I'm currently in, we spent the first three years (essentially) long distance. And there is one important fact the people seem to overlook.

Communication is key.

When you don't get to see each other all that often, you have to rely on either verbal communication (over the phone) or written forms of communication. Skype is a blessing, as spotty as it can be. You need to talk to him. Plain and simple.

No relationship can properly function if one of the people involved doesn't think it will work, and the other isn't expressing their feelings. You need to tell him how you feel. Explain to him how his actions affect your emotions, and then see where the conversation goes. I'm not saying you should demand that he change himself immediately to please you. But see if a compromise can be reached. See if he's willing to work something out with you.

And if he doesn't care, isn't willing to talk about it, or reacts in a way that invalidates your feelings, it might be time to move on. You need to be with someone that will listen when you talk, and work through whatever issues you're having. Relationships require 100% from everyone involved. If not everyone is willing to do that, then the relationship has run its course.

Hope this was helpful!