Okey to share bed?

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Have a pillow wall in between both of you. Make sure he doesn't see you get hard. I'm sure that'll be it.

There's nothing wrong in sharing a room with him even though you know you have a crush on him. You're friends, good friends even as you say, so there shouldn't be anything strange about it. Don't worry or anything, I'm sure it'll go fine.

On another note, you could try to find out if he is straight or not in the duration of the trip (Not that it should matter though ).

Hope that helps.

 

So are you sharing a room or bed?

I mean this is very much culturally bound. In my culture not even close male friends share beds as that is deemed gay. However, one of my closest (male) friend is Iranian and we pretty much always sleep in the same bed and occasionally even spoon. Now I have no idea is this normal in Iranian culture or if my friend is gay or bisexual. He insists he is not gay and to be honest I don't really care much if he is or not.

Occasionally I also get hard on with him but I just hide it. Naturally I won't spoon him with hard on as that's bound to freak him out if he is not into men.

I don't see any moral problem with sharing the room or bed with him even if you have a crush on him. There should not be any problem if you think you are able to contain yourself and not do anything that might upset him. Don't get too drunk if you fear you might feel tempted to make an attempt on him.

 

If you're not comfortable with the pillow wall, you don't have to go for it. . It's not wrong of you to share a bed, try to get that thought out of your head. There isn't anything wrong, trust me. (*hug*). When you're sure you won't act on it, no matter how turned on you might get, then you're completely safe. It shows you're in control of your emotions and actions and that is what matters.

As for whether he tries to do something, why don't you wait and see. I feel there is no point in wondering that now is there? . Give it time and see. If he does something, you can assess that then and there. Keep us up to and date and I'm sure we can help you figure it out.

At the end of the day he is your friend. You know him better than any of us.

 

I'm not a man, but I would snuggle anything that moves if it was socially acceptable. However, its a physical want as my family wasn't physically affectionate, it has no sexual component for me usually. I just want the oxytocin

 

As long as you contain yourself around him, you're good!

 

If you're going on a trip and staying in a nice hotel then it might be two beds. (especially if its 2 people sharing a room) if not and you are REALLY desperate fall asleep on the couch on "accident"

Not much else to say goodluck!

 

I've done it before, spent a whole week sleeping on the same mattress as a straight friend of mine. He knew my sexuality, and although he was a little apprehensive, it was fine. I think the key factor was that we were going to bed simply to sleep, not to sleep together, if that makes sense. I think that intention is what made it easier for me, however, I never had a crush on him, so it might be a little different for you.
Hope this helps a little bit, on top of what's already been said (which I totally agree with)!

 

if something might come up between the two of you at night just make sure its not you who do the first step. but if ever things gets awkward during your bed times just go to the bath room and do your thing. oh and the couch is always there for you. just tell him "i don't feel like sharing bed so ill just sleep on the couch". also there is a high chance that you will see him half naked or just wearing his underwear so CONTAIN YOURSELF ^^. just giving you an idea you can sneak and sniff his used undies! WAIT WHAT OK DONT DO THAT.

 

i have shared a bed with guys whom i have had crushes on, i think it should be ok!