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What to do with my "friends"

Discussion in 'Family, Friends, and Relationships' started by grizzleybear33, Jan 24, 2016.

  1. grizzleybear33

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    I am a junior in college and up until now I had a solid group of friends...or so I thought. I have been studying abroad for this past semester and so I wasn't in the US to coordinate housing with them but yesterday I found out 3 of my "friends" were signing a housing contract without me. Since freshmen year I have hung out with them and pretty much only them so it's hard for me to believe that they didn't know I wanted to live with them. I tried to talk with them about it but they didn't really say much. One of them is a people pleaser so he will say anything to stay on good terms with everyone but one of the other ones told me that I should have "taken the initiative" which I don't believe since like I said before they had to have known I want to live with them. This late in my college career I don't really want to find new friends but with things playing out like they are I feel like I am backed into a corner with nowhere to turn but to find new people to hang out with. The only problem with that is that at my stage I feel like it is kind of hard to find a group of people who are willing to accept someone new into their group. If anyone has a similar experience or some advice it wound be greatly appreciated. Thanks.
     
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    There's always time to try and meet people in college. My last year, between some drama with my existing friends and the graduation of some of my other friends, I set out to make new friends. I went to more parties and events to try and interact with people, and I tried to hang out with people who I had always been friendly with but never really hung out with before. It worked pretty well, and I had a great year.
     
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    Are you sure that the snub was intentional? Could you be reading too much into it?

    It’s really easy for communication lines to break down when distance is involved – this is especially true in college. They probably should have coordinated housing with you – but didn’t. You probably should have checked in with them earlier – but didn’t. These things happen.

    Why is it that you have to be living with them in order to be remain friends? I had some great friends in college – and didn’t live with a single one of them. In fact, by not living with them there was less friction in the friendship since we didn’t have to be around each other 24/7.

    If it’s not possible to live with these friends, I would work on finding somewhere else to live. But don’t be so quick to consider the friendship dead. I see no reason why you should have to start all over again with a new set of friends.