Need help with rejection and finding love

You are not alone.
I am 26 already.

This shitty thing about not noticing those who like you and not being noticed by those you like happens all the freaking time. The universe is a bit of a pervert and a jerk, really.

Take a breath. Your whole life is ahead. Start socializing a little bit. Now I know that getting into the LGBT world is super frightening (I´m kind of scared, myself) but being around gay people dramatically increases the chances of meeting someone that will reciprocate your feelings. Don´t expect finding the love of your life on the first day. Things take some time to progress. You ´ll get there eventually. I will, too.

 

Unfortunately that happens in the straight world too... I went through that while trying to understand why I was finding girls attractive. I agree with idsm... get out there and meet people. When I came out to my mom as being bi she said it doubled my chances of getting a date at least...LOL. So no.. you're not alone. OMG'ddss... 26 is young! I'm only 20 and there is plenty of time to find the right person.

 

YOU ARE SO NOT ALONE. This is me. Completely me. I rarely give my heart away, and when I do, the feelings I have are ridiculously strong.

I know what you mean about the political aspects of queer culture. I'd like to bond with other gay girls over interests that aren't our sexual orientation. University isn't the absolute best place to meet people, as far as I'm concerned. Plus, I think during these years, so many of us are just starting to come out and are entering the lgbt community for the first time. It's all so new and exciting so of course we're all excited to just talk about that and nothing but that and be completely involved.

As much as it sucks to be a virgin who hasn't been kissed, with friends that are almost all way more experienced, we are still young. We really are. And while I would love to have a girlfriend and experience that closeness with someone, the time just hasn't come yet. It will. Especially as we get older, we'll start meeting women who have been out long enough to be comfortable with who they are, and things become less about "being gay" and more about sharing common interests and both being into the other person.

Have faith, because I do!

 

Yes I am! I'm an Alberta girl. That's me too - I want the connection. I have a friend who has been out pretty much her whole life as well - and everyone knew before she came out that she was gay. She's completely comfortable with her sexuality and also pretty much uninvolved with lgbt groups. She's also only had one real relationship that ended about three years ago and she's been single since. She's open to meeting someone but she's not actively searching for it either.

That gives me a bit of faith that if she can be so comfortable with herself and be in no huge rush/worry to find someone, I'll be okay too. So I just try to focus on friends, family, school life, etc. and just being happy with my life in general. I think that by doing the things you love and loving yourself and your life, people will be attracted to that. And that's a great way to find someone.