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Should I let him know I'm over him

Discussion in 'Family, Friends, and Relationships' started by dopplershift94, Apr 4, 2016.

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  1. dopplershift94

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    So a few months ago, I posted a thread about having a crush on my straight friend. I told him and he was cool about it. A few months have passed since I told him, and I am for the most part over him. I still have some feelings for him, but he doesn't need to know that.

    I want to tell him that I'm over him. Is it a good idea, or should I just let it be?
     
    #1 dopplershift94, Apr 4, 2016
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    Why do you want to tell him? Is it because there is an awkward feeling or the relationship has changed etc or is it just because you want to keep him up to date?
     
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    I don't see why that would be necessary if all else is the same...?
     
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    You could show you are over him by your actions. If he's straight, he should get over it himself. What do you mean by "he was cool with it" when you told him?
     
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    When I said that "he was cool with it". He seemed shocked, but said that he wasn't mad, and said that he understands that it's something that people can't really control.He has been nothing but supportive. Nothing has really changed between us besides the fact that I'm afraid to ask him to just hangout with me because I'm afraid he'll think I'm hitting on him.
     
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    So, really I think telling is more for you than for him because you don't know if he would assume you're hitting on him just by asking to hang out. I think you should just try and follow through about asking because he probably also wants to return soon to a normal, non-awkward friendship.
     
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    If you are feeling the need to tell him you're over him....you're probably not over him. Just saying
     
    #7 OutofZCloset, Apr 5, 2016
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