How long does it take before you know that you're "sure" with your feelings?

Well I've been with my spouse for 8 years and I've always felt like that lol. Basically I always say don't get involved unless you really trust them, you really like them physically and who they are as a person and you can see a future but that's just me. If you can see getting hurt as a real issue or you are things that really bother you about the person I would avoid something but if you think it seems like a good idea... 'Sure' about feelings is tough, I think when you're sure you're in love... Sure is good but I think people are too 'sure' and haven't gotten to know people well enough and then they don't end up happy together... So from what you said it could go either way, I don't know, but my suggestion is just think it over & be sure enough that you're going to be happy with the decision you make. Good luck.

 

I really don't trust myself with my feelings lol, I can develop a really strong attraction to someone and be completely blind to their faults. It took me two years of being into this girl before I accepted that my feelings were probably real.

I think it's important to try to take a step back and think about the guy you're fantasizing about. The things that make your heart ache most about him, what are they, when you're imagining him? If they are things that he has actually done/said around you, and not just something you've made up in your head/something you imagine the two of you doing, I'd say your feelings might be real.

My biggest weakness with crushes is that I tend to create this imaginary person that looks like them in my head, and when this happens, I desperately need a reality check.