Found out my crush has a crush on me!

Hi Kate, welcome to EC.

You say,

You were hoping that she would say that, she might have been hoping you would say that. Maybe you could be the icebreaker and say something as simple as hey, think you might want to hang out sometime. See where it goes.

 

Like I say, I would just write her and say, "Hey, would you like to hang out some time?" If she asks why or anything else that makes you feel uncomfortable, just say something like talk about acting and anything else that might be going on.

You think she may be thinking you're straight, she may not feel comfortable bringing up hanging with you thinking you're straight. If you bring it up, that might be all she needs to loosen up.

 

I agree with Brian.

She probably doesn't think she has a chance, so give her a reason to think she does
Asking for a hangout is a great start.

 

Oh my god! I sooooo relate! I recently lost my appetite after my crush spoke to me for the first time, then invited me to hang out...I thought I was developing anorexia or something...glad to know I'm not the only emotional trainwreck out there

 

woop this is brilliant news!!!



it will probably be impossible to work out her true motivations without asking her, but i'd say take a risk and go for it if you do really want it to go anywhere, because who knows where it could lead?!!

i i think her "keep on keeping'" reaction was because she has feelings for you?!! when i fell hard for someone it was totally inappropriate to have a relationship with, my natural reaction was to be as "clinical" as i could when speaking with them/keep myself level. so maybe she was doing the same?

and yes i agree, if she has no idea you are a lesbian then she might not want to approach you about her feelings/scare you off?

if you want to pursue then...do it! i was trying to think of what i'd do and came up with a few options (disclaimer: my dating history is appalling...) ,

the bold options:
approach her and just say you like her? but leave it open and non ultimate/pressurised
maybe you could take a risk and come out to her and just see what happens?

the food way:
don't know how well you know her, but could you buy her fave muffin or something? (this is the option which would work for me )

or if that's too much maybe just drop a big stereotypical hint like mentioning the L word or something?

or maybe try and catch her eye and just keep holding that eye contact..?

or probs the sensible option; just find ways to spend more time with her and see what develops?

good luck!!

 

You said you sent her a message so do you have her number? Maybe send her a message asking her to grab a bite to eat tell her you need to ask her advice.

You say she's out? so maybe whilst grabbing the bite to eat (and if your ready to come out to her) ask her how she came out tell her that you're closeted and wondering how she came out because you're unsure how to come out yourself but need to tell someone.

By doing that it should spark her interest because she then knows you're available you never know she could even tell you she likes you without you telling her you like her first

If that goes well maybe you could tell her you've liked her for a while and see how it goes, I wouldn't wait a few months what if she moves on??? You've lost your chance and it might not come round again

Keep us updated

 

I think it is normal for her to act like she did before because she doesn't know that you know she likes you and she still may be playing it cool. just try to get in touch with her, show her that you care about her. if she really likes you; since you don't let her you like her, you would not want her to get over you and get distracted by someone else. wish you the best^^

 

I'd probably bite the bullet and click like at least it'll give her the hint you're into her.
If she says anything to your mutual friend then all's good you could even give them a hint you like her, I know you're not out but you'll have to give her the hint you like her some how.

 

I'm gonna go bold and just say ask her out. If she already told a friend she's into you she's gonna say yes. There's no reason to beat around the bush. Just make it short and sweet and make sure it says the word "date". She's not going to say no. Have courage. She's gay...she wants you to ask her out.

 

Ooh your so lucky! i say go for it! Best of luck <3

 

Let us know how it goes, if she's told a friend she's into you and your friends told you then maybe she told him because she's shy just do it if you don't you regret what could of been by being too scared.

As I said you even invite her out under the pretension of asking her advice of how to come out but then you give her the hint you're gay too she may even ask you out

 

you said you look straight. i think that she thinks youre stragiht and just tries to act casual to avoid making things awkward between you and her. I should just ask her out and try to become better friends with her. maybe tell her youre gay once youre close and trust her?

 

Ask if she's a lesbian and start from there... I'm bad at advice...

 

(!)(!)(!) Go you do it at least you'll have something to talk about when you click like keep us updated