So I've tried this online dating thing. I'm a woman and I'm bisexual, but I don't really have any, um, experience with men. There's one guy that I've been messaging with for about a month now. We added each other on Facebook and swapped numbers, and agreed to meet soon when we are less busy. I know this is a heterosexual dating question, but I feel lost because I'm more used to other women... And men intimidate me a little. At one point he asked if I was interested in FWB and I said no, that I was looking for a relationship. He said he was fine with that, and he wanted to meet me and see if we were compatible or not. He said he'd hoped I'd be up for FWB if we decided we didn't want to date seriously... And recently he was teasing me and made a remark about how he'd like to have sex with me. It surprised me, because besides the FWB thing we'd never talked about sex at all. I came out and told him I'd never been with a man before and that I wouldn't want to jump into having sex. He said he was sorry, and that he "would never rush me or try to get me to do something I didn't want to do". He said he didn't mind waiting if we really liked each other. We haven't been on a date yet, but we have been talking almost everyday for a month. We've continued talking and he hasn't mentioned sex again, just normal, getting to know you stuff. Is this normal? He seems like a really nice guy, but I'm just afraid he only wants me for sex...
It's impossible for us to tell what are his intentions. However, generally speaking the longer anyone is willing to wait for sex the bigger the chances that their motives are not just about the sex. However, even if he is not just after sex it does not mean that he is after a serious relationship either.
