What is it like to be a 21 year old gay guy with very little experience nowadays?

Hey! I can relate. I'm 22F and I've never as much as held hands with someone. Never mind make out or have sex.

I too come from a Catholic childhood, although I do live in a very liberal part of the world where being gay isn't a big deal--for this I am grateful, but liberal-ness doesn't help my single-ness.

I too would say I "matured very quickly in terms of critical thinking and logic" but is terribly behind in other stages of life.

Interestingly, when I talk to people who have dated and had sex lots, my inexperience doesn't seem like a big deal. I don't know if they're just being nice, but people--good people, because I only talk to people I have respect for!--don't really take sexual experience THAT much in account. It depends on what you're after, I suppose. Sexual experience might count if you want to be successful at one-night stands. But I think it's less important if you want to date and have an eventual relationship. When it comes to dating and relationships, I think it's life experience that counts, and you've had 21 years of that and what I can see from your way of speech as a mature attitude.

The media only tells the stories of a few, not the entire human experience. I think there are way more 20/30-something year-old virgins in our boat. I mean, life gets in the way. I'm in university doing a double major. I work. I volunteer. I do extracurriculars. I actually socialize a lot and have little trouble making friends. And I'm sure you do too, there's absolutely nothing "wrong" with you or I

 

Haha, if you think about it, people in the Middle Ages got married and had kids in their teens. Childhood and young adulthood seems to be ever-expanding. I think our generation is just part of this phenomenon.

My parents got married at 25. I can't imagine getting married at 25. I think I'd get married earliest 30 even if I met my Happily Ever After tomorrow.

We simply have more distractions and things to do.

I too am a bit of a romantic. Us romantics are fussy, I've come to discover. It's very rare I'd actually find someone I like romantically, so when I finally do, I panic and inevitably mess it up. Looking back there has actually been a number of people who've wanted to start something with me, that I could have experimented with...if only for the experience's sake...but I don't do that because I refuse to commit to something I'm not 100% into.